suggestions?

[Emeral]

I havent been in a relationship before, i met this girl, we got to know each other better and we became very close very quickly, it lasted one month though, she broke it off stating that its her not me, that she has problems she needs to sort out before she decides to commit, from the get going we both had the intention of a serious relationship.

 

She also told me that she dated a guy before me, and that where i got with her in one month took that guy 2 years, he had broken it off with her a year ago because of her issues. now she definitely has issues, but nothing i cant live with, i feel i can take her and and go through anything, yet she has made the decision otherwise, i asked her repetitively if theres something wrong with me, so that i know my faults, but nothing.

 

I do care about her a lot, i was very nice to her, i was being very accommodating, literally changing the music i listen to for her, accepting her and her "issues" regardless of how i felt, basically i do feel like im describing a door mat, but thats how i am when i really love someone, and i love her still. when she broke it off she was like lets be friends, which was difficult for me but i dont want to lose her and i do hope shell come back to her senses. that didnt go well either, long story short, the boundaries got messed up changing with her mood, sometimes we can talk about stuff, sometimes we cant.

 

I cant hug her as a friend, i cant, i cant, its like she springs barriers everywhere, and everytime i did something which i would do with any other friend she would suggest i give her space and not talk to her for a while, eventually i got sick of her stating that so i just didnt talk to her, after a week i couldnt, so i went back to her, then again mid conversation she did the same thing asking me to give her space like im choking her or something, even though im very accommodating, she could have asked to limit our conversations to like once a week or something, or once a month, whatever she wants.

 

Yet no, thats the only option she offers, so i sent her a long email and simply ended it telling her that if she really values me and thinks we are as close as she says she shouldnt be acting like that and she should show it, and i havent talked to her since,

 

and i really miss her, like shes always on my mind, yet i dont want to talk to someone that doesnt appreciate me or thinks im suffocating them, its been 17 days now, she hasnt even poked me on fb, nothing as if im just another person that crossed her life.....im lost

help? advice, anything is welcome.

Edited May 23, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[therhythm]

mate, I am sorry to break it hard to you but when a girl tell you "it is not you, its me" it really means that it is you ...

 

Just google it if you don't believe me!

[Emeral]

that much i know, but i had asked her what is it in me that it is, because i don't see it, and she wont even acknowledge it, if she would tell me ill just know and move on, she just insists its her :s