na49 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 (edited) Well I didn't really want to post my story, but here goes nothing. So over 6 months ago now, my ex broke up with me. It felt like it was completely out of the blue. She was stressing because of schoolwork, but then again so was I. It's college for f*cks sake! I heard that she thought she might have feelings for another guy, one of her friends really gets her, and the next day I'm dumped. So like a normal rational person I assume she had cheated on me. I later learn that she and this friend of hers were never together. He had no interest in her at all. This left me confused as hell. I fielded breadcrumbs texts and calls. Didn't do much begging and pleading. I was more insulting her and her friends (who I felt like played a big part in her decision). Well not even a month later I go NC because I figure "okay.. it's really over between us. She doesn't want to be with me anymore because I'm dirt" and try to heal. I still pray that she'll call me and for the first month I hear nothing. Then I get "Hi" texts from her. Which I ignore. "Can we talk?" texts which I also ignore. "I know we ended on bad terms, but I'd like to be friends" text which I ignored. After enough cold sweats while I'm trying to sleep, and enough threads/posts here asking about "should I block her number?" I block her number. The block lasts 90 days. I make a huge @ss thread on here where I had LS members talk me off the ledge of contacting her/selling my dignity for her. I get great advice, and the people here were actually the ones who convinced me to go to the gym/go to counseling. I took their advice and these were two major steps for me. Counseling being the biggest. The new semester starts. I go to the gym, I go to counseling, I buy myself some new clothes/change my style. I try to open up to people a bit more, but I still struggled. I had good days and bad days. Wasn't trying to date anyone, just trying to make more friends. I obsess over her day after day. I always missed her, but I was willing to take it for what it was after enough time passed. She wasn't coming back. She was happy without me. I was going to have to be happy without her, and I was slowly getting there. Not happy she was gone, but I had to become content with my single life and whatever happened in the future. Well fast forward almost two months ago now, I get the text. (at about 4 in the morning my phone went off and I figured it was one of my apps on my iPhone) I check my phone when I get up to go to class and my jaw drops. She wants me back! She's wanted me back! She wanted me back for a while but wasn't sure how to tell me exactly. Just yesterday I saw she also had sent me an email, but I rarely check my emails so I didn't know about it until I was going through them yesterday and I found it. So I "break NC" after 5 months. Tell her I was happy to hear from her, that I would love to try things again but I can never settle for being her friend because I would always want more. She agrees and we both live happily ever after. (since then) I always wanted things to work between us, and right now it seems like she wants things to work between us as well. So we'll see what happens. I probably forgot some things, but I guess the moral of my story is to just do you. You're going to think about them. You might want them back. Just take that for what it is and don't let it keep you stuck. If they come back, they come back. If they don't, you won't be in a hole because you'll be actively working on yourself and your issues. The end. Edited May 23, 2013 by na49 13
Deerhunter Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Good for you. I hope everything works out. You played it perfectly!
cinta_satu Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 I probably forgot some things, but I guess the moral of my story is to just do you. You're going to think about them. You might want them back. Just take that for what it is and don't let it keep you stuck. If they come back, they come back. If they don't, you won't be in a hole because you'll be actively working on yourself and your issues. The end. Very inspiring story. Thanks for posting. And glad to hear that you two worked things out. Did you ex date someone else while you were broken up? Good luck with everything!
Author na49 Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 Very inspiring story. Thanks for posting. And glad to hear that you two worked things out. Did you ex date someone else while you were broken up? Good luck with everything! She went out on dates with other guys, but was never "dating" them. Apparently no one else satisfied her.
BustedUpInside Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 I am so glad things worked out for you. Not just getting your ex back, but not worrying about it and improving yourself for your own sake. Good for you! I hope that things work out and you guys can improve and grow together 1
youngnlove89 Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 My "Hope Meter" just filled. I'm happy for you Na, but I'm super jealous. I want my ex back!!
McDonald Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 I am happy for you Na. Glad it is working out. Just make sure you keep your feet planted on the ground and dont forget the things you learned. Also, keep up with your workout routine!!! Dont let it fall apart! always have your own happiness, so that you can be happy, when your by yourself. @younglove, I think Nah's take home message was that you shouldnt wait on the ex to come back, becuase there is a HUGE chance it wont happen. Like he said, he did not start making improvements until he went NC and when he finally stopped waiting around. Sure he missed her, but he was not waiting around anymore. Hope is the one thing that crushes us. There is a reason why it was in Pandora's box with the other evils in the world... or... maybe there is a reason why hope never left the box with the other evils when it was opened. Sorry lol getting philisphical haha. I no longer long for my ex... yes I miss her... But shes changed, and I honestly do not want her back... its sad for me to say that.. but it is true, I am longing a relationship... I am sure you are as well. You have to seperate your ex, for your feelings for a relationship. Anyway, happy saturday!!
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