myriam5182 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Heres my dilemma , My sons father and I were together for 7 years and he cheated on me etc.... with my sis in law and a ton of other girls although he denies denies denies. Him and I have massive chemistry he was like my soulmate I did move on and he came back trying to piece us back together which is now, NOW that he found out I was dating (it was okay for him to do it but still denies it) when I would bring my son to his house to visit he would have 2 wine glasses from the night before with our favorite wine out Nice right! Still denies.... I met this really nice guy dorky sweet educated... the complete opposite of my sons father we have great conversation... were still getting to know each other but I want to continue to see him but now my sons father is moving back in... (he lost his job) he's treating me like he should of instead of cheating on me for the last 3 years! But for the last 3 years my sons father has felt like a friend because of the demise of our relationship I know we will never be more than what we are now. But he also financially takes care of us. So that worries me to if he cuts us off because Im dating. I dont trust him and I know the cheating will never stop. I think Im just to nice.... Weve had a TON of great times we just vibe so well and are into the same things..... I wanted him to be my friend he said I cant have both either were together or nothing at all.... What would you do? Please nice responses ,honest but dont be rude Thanks!
PogoStick Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 (edited) Depends on how you define soulmate. If it's the one perfect person for you, then obviously not, and also means you have a 1 in 7 billion chance in ending up together. I'd rather think there are 10,000 girls out there that I'd be happy and excited to be with. Edited May 23, 2013 by PogoStick 1
happydate Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 (edited) Heres my dilemma , My sons father and I were together for 7 years and he cheated on me etc.... with my sis in law and a ton of other girls although he denies denies denies. Him and I have massive chemistry he was like my soulmate I did move on and he came back trying to piece us back together which is now, NOW that he found out I was dating (it was okay for him to do it but still denies it) when I would bring my son to his house to visit he would have 2 wine glasses from the night before with our favorite wine out Nice right! Still denies.... I met this really nice guy dorky sweet educated... the complete opposite of my sons father we have great conversation... were still getting to know each other but I want to continue to see him but now my sons father is moving back in... (he lost his job) he's treating me like he should of instead of cheating on me for the last 3 years! But for the last 3 years my sons father has felt like a friend because of the demise of our relationship I know we will never be more than what we are now. But he also financially takes care of us. So that worries me to if he cuts us off because Im dating. I dont trust him and I know the cheating will never stop. I think Im just to nice.... Weve had a TON of great times we just vibe so well and are into the same things..... I wanted him to be my friend he said I cant have both either were together or nothing at all.... What would you do? Please nice responses ,honest but dont be rude Thanks! There is a Hollywood definition of a soulmate and there is the actual definition from the divine (Universe) of what a soulmate is. I will explain both. The Hollywood version of a soulmate is basically a life partner, a long lasting lover that will love you unconditionally. This sells tickets, tear jerkers etc etc etc... The reality is that, stuff like this rarely ever works which is why Hollywood ALWAYS cashs in the big moola because so many people want to believe in this fantasy. The truth lies somewhere in between. Now let me tell you that you have several thousands soulmates, not just one. What you are asking if I should have more than 1 intimate soulmate or known as life mate. The answer is yes and up to about 6 according the one 6th generation Psychic Elizabeth Holloway. Why 6 then? Well that's because we humans make mistakes, so you have about 6 attempts to get it right. Get it right? What do you mean by getting it right? In the divine Universe, your presence on earth is as an eternal soul who is on a journey to learn a human experience. The best experience is through relationships and that relationship between friends, father, mother, siblings, relatives and your lovers are all your, guess what, soul mates!! They are part of your soul group family, the most closest. The furthest are the ones you listen to the radio, on LS here. Even I am your soul mate by writing this piece to you. Before you came to earth and be reborn as a human being, you have to go through drafting of a soul plan and that plan has contracts and obligations you have to fulfill with your other soul mates to help you grow spiritually. You created this reality and you signed for it on that dotted line in front of the lord. Your cheating husband was actually your doing. You asked him, on the soul level, to cheat on so that you can feel how a cheating husband make you feel sad, angry and venerable. And from this struggle, you would look inside your heart and heal it a bit. Then perhaps your next life mate appears (second intimate soul mate) that will teach you more lessons about cheating. You will start to notice a theme in your relationships and what the theme meant. Keep in mind that your husband who cheated may be your brother, your sister or even your girlfriend or mother in your past lifes who re-incarnated in this life to act as your hubby out of love. Pure eternal never dying souls will act out acts out of unconditional love because they want you to succeed an attain personal spiritual growth. If you want to succeed in this Universal game, think the movie like "The Matrix" with Keanu Reeves and how the world is run with certain programming laws. If you understand the laws, you can manifest your own wishes through prayers to the lord and what your wish will come through as miracles. If you are open to the spiritual world and psychics in general, I suggest perhaps seeing a well known psychic to determine your general life plan. Once you know your soul plan, it makes it easier to accept why your husband did this to you and that the future becomes brighter. Read Robert Schwartz (Your Soul Plan) and Staci Wells, a PLR specialist who can listen in on the conversation between you and your cheating husband if you're up to it. Fascinating stuff especially how scary accurate she can get off people. Hope this helps.. Edited May 23, 2013 by happydate 1
FitChick Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 How can your husband support you financially if he is moving in with you because he doesn't have a job?
Author myriam5182 Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 He just started a job on Monday, and he gets checks in randomly from previous claims/work hes done so its not steady. Thus why he got a job!
serial muse Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Hi OP, I'm not quite sure what you're really asking - sounds like the underlying question is whether you should let your exH go. Well, flatly, I'd say yes - you say yourself that you can't ever trust him again, and I would urge you to follow your instincts on that. Frankly, he sounds like he's still being manipulative. To the soulmate question - if the concern is whether you'll ever find someone with the exact same chemistry - perhaps not the exact same, no. But that doesn't mean you won't find someone with whom you're ultimately far more happy. Your ex sounds pretty manipulative, and the uncertainty and anxiety can also add spice to a relationship. But it clearly hasn't been a recipe for happiness for you. It's too bad that he's still hanging around, because that sets you back as far as seeing it for what it was and being able to truly move on. So from what you've told us here, I don't see a good reason for you to try again with him. If he wants to give up a loving relationship (through cheating) and even a solid friendship (through pique, on his part) then that's his choice - and it probably means he wasn't really much of a soulmate, right? 1
ChessPieceFace Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 1.) Cheaters don't change 2.) No such thing as a soulmate 1
Dafa Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 (...) Him and I have massive chemistry he was like my soulmate (...) I met this really nice guy dorky sweet educated... the complete opposite of my sons father we have great conversation... were still getting to know each other (...) he's treating me like he should of instead of cheating on me for the last 3 years! Weve had a TON of great times we just vibe so well and are into the same things..... I wanted him to be my friend he said I cant have both either were together or nothing at all.... What would you do? Please nice responses ,honest but dont be rude Thanks! Honestly, whatever you wish to do regarding your Ex, please be mindful of the other guy's feelings... In my interpretation of your text, i find it quite clear that you do not have any chemistry with the guy, nor are you really interested in him romantically... At best, the "dork" is simply giving you an ego boost and that is what is drawing you to him. In situations such as yours, 9/10 the person in his position (i.e., the dork) is the one that ends up worst off.
thatone Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Heres my dilemma , My sons father and I were together for 7 years and he cheated on me etc.... with my sis in law and a ton of other girls although he denies denies denies. Him and I have massive chemistry he was like my soulmate I did move on and he came back trying to piece us back together which is now, NOW that he found out I was dating (it was okay for him to do it but still denies it) when I would bring my son to his house to visit he would have 2 wine glasses from the night before with our favorite wine out Nice right! Still denies.... I met this really nice guy dorky sweet educated... the complete opposite of my sons father we have great conversation... were still getting to know each other but I want to continue to see him but now my sons father is moving back in... (he lost his job) he's treating me like he should of instead of cheating on me for the last 3 years! But for the last 3 years my sons father has felt like a friend because of the demise of our relationship I know we will never be more than what we are now. But he also financially takes care of us. So that worries me to if he cuts us off because Im dating. I dont trust him and I know the cheating will never stop. I think Im just to nice.... Weve had a TON of great times we just vibe so well and are into the same things..... I wanted him to be my friend he said I cant have both either were together or nothing at all.... What would you do? Please nice responses ,honest but dont be rude Thanks! "We" do not have this massive chemistry, "you" like the drama, which is why you take him back over and over again. And as long as you're living on his money you don't have much of a leg to stand on. You either stay with the abuser or you be rid of him and get a job. But we know which choice you're going to make so this is all semantics really. PS there is no such thing as a soul and therefore no such thing as a soul mate.
Dafa Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 There is a Hollywood definition of a soulmate and there is the actual definition from the divine (Universe) of what a soulmate is. I will explain both. The Hollywood version of a soulmate is basically a life partner, a long lasting lover that will love you unconditionally. This sells tickets, tear jerkers etc etc etc... The reality is that, stuff like this rarely ever works which is why Hollywood ALWAYS cashs in the big moola because so many people want to believe in this fantasy. The truth lies somewhere in between. Now let me tell you that you have several thousands soulmates, not just one. What you are asking if I should have more than 1 intimate soulmate or known as life mate. The answer is yes and up to about 6 according the one 6th generation Psychic Elizabeth Holloway. Why 6 then? Well that's because we humans make mistakes, so you have about 6 attempts to get it right. Get it right? What do you mean by getting it right? In the divine Universe, your presence on earth is as an eternal soul who is on a journey to learn a human experience. The best experience is through relationships and that relationship between friends, father, mother, siblings, relatives and your lovers are all your, guess what, soul mates!! They are part of your soul group family, the most closest. The furthest are the ones you listen to the radio, on LS here. Even I am your soul mate by writing this piece to you. Before you came to earth and be reborn as a human being, you have to go through drafting of a soul plan and that plan has contracts and obligations you have to fulfill with your other soul mates to help you grow spiritually. You created this reality and you signed for it on that dotted line in front of the lord. Your cheating husband was actually your doing. You asked him, on the soul level, to cheat on so that you can feel how a cheating husband make you feel sad, angry and venerable. And from this struggle, you would look inside your heart and heal it a bit. Then perhaps your next life mate appears (second intimate soul mate) that will teach you more lessons about cheating. You will start to notice a theme in your relationships and what the theme meant. Keep in mind that your husband who cheated may be your brother, your sister or even your girlfriend or mother in your past lifes who re-incarnated in this life to act as your hubby out of love. Pure eternal never dying souls will act out acts out of unconditional love because they want you to succeed an attain personal spiritual growth. If you want to succeed in this Universal game, think the movie like "The Matrix" with Keanu Reeves and how the world is run with certain programming laws. If you understand the laws, you can manifest your own wishes through prayers to the lord and what your wish will come through as miracles. If you are open to the spiritual world and psychics in general, I suggest perhaps seeing a well known psychic to determine your general life plan. Once you know your soul plan, it makes it easier to accept why your husband did this to you and that the future becomes brighter. Read Robert Schwartz (Your Soul Plan) and Staci Wells, a PLR specialist who can listen in on the conversation between you and your cheating husband if you're up to it. Fascinating stuff especially how scary accurate she can get off people. Hope this helps.. Dear god... Myriam, please don't pay any attention to the psychic part of this comment. It's completely baseless and as such, dangerous to be used without a scrutiny on your part. 1
happydate Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 (edited) Cheers... Edited May 24, 2013 by happydate
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