Hockeyguy19 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 On 2013-05-23, at 1:12 PM, "*****.ca <*****@live.ca> wrote: How's stats going? Sent from my iPhone Just got this email from her, I know it's a breadcrumb, it means nothing. Thinking about just deleting it or thinking of responding with this that I got from Tara on a different post... It's going fine, but ******* I can't do this anymore, if you ever want to contact me again, this is what I expect to see; m really sorry for what I did. I don't know why I did it, but all I know, is that it was the most stupid thing I've ever done. I was a complete fool to end it, and I want to try again, and will do whatever it takes to make it up to you, prove I'm deadly serious, and regain your trust. Please, can you find it in your heart to try again? If this isn't what you want, then please do not contact me. Thoughts?
crederer Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 How long ago did you break up? I likely wouldn't respond like that unless you guys are already back onto somewhat of speaking terms. If this is the first thing she has said since the break up, just ignore it. 1
Ale khun Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 I think it's a good email to send her but ... Please please be careful if u send her the email you are telling her that u are willing to try and make and effort to work things with her because you love her , just don't put your heart and hope in this email if she says " no" or "I don't know " probably it's going to hurt , just try not to go back to squeare one . Good luck
Author Hockeyguy19 Posted May 23, 2013 Author Posted May 23, 2013 I think it's a good email to send her but ... Please please be careful if u send her the email you are telling her that u are willing to try and make and effort to work things with her because you love her , just don't put your heart and hope in this email if she says " no" or "I don't know " probably it's going to hurt , just try not to go back to squeare one . Good luck 7 weeks since bu, a week of nc after lc for awhile, she also has a new bf or did a week ago, doubtful that changed. Ale, that's where I'm stuck right now, the reply won't be loving, I can almost guarantee that, and I don't want to be back at square one again, I can't do that again, I've done it too many times before. She's a very good mind game player and I can't do that again. She sent me another one asking about a particular question so it's all business as they say. I've so far ignored both but I don't know if she'll get the hint, thus thinking of that reply. Ugh stupid breadcrumbs!
avelonia2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Crederer is right in asking how long has it been since you broke up. It may be too soon to send something like that. I would stay NC and not respond to her and would just give yourself some time and space to gain some perspective. Then see how you feel. Once you've had some time to clear your head and procees your feelings you may not want her back. So that email might be premature. NC is best until you're in a better head space. I'm sure my situation is different from yours, but if I got an email like that right now, after the circumstances I was forced to accept for so long, there is no way I would honor that request. I would need to see something from him showing that there was a point to it and something needed to be accomplished first before it could change. I admit I didn't end it in the best way, but I would be forced to respond by saying, "Are you serious? You expect me to grovel for the status quo and go back to accepting things as they were? No way. That might have been an ideal situation for you, but it was not for me and you know very well why." And of course this is if I was contacting him which I'm not, so I wouldnt have to send that kind of response...lol. 1
Ale khun Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Then just press the" ignore button" in your head you don't deserve this trust me , maybe not today or tomorrow , but one day you won't bother to think what to do with her emails . Don't play her game , and if she has a new bf good for her , she has lost an awesome guy (you) , you deserve to be happy . Just ignore her and pretend you never saw her email .
Minneloa Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Crederer is right in asking how long has it been since you broke up. It may be too soon to send something like that. I would stay NC and not respond to her and would just give yourself some time and space to gain some perspective. Then see how you feel. Once you've had some time to clear your head and procees your feelings you may not want her back. So that email might be premature. NC is best until you're in a better head space. Completely agree with this advice. Hang in there, Hockeyguy!
Author Hockeyguy19 Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 Too early. Ignore her. That's what I did, deleted both emails and ignored 1
aisuru Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 That's what I did, deleted both emails and ignored Good for you. I know how tempting it likely was to respond.
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