Cosmic Ray Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Last night I went on the first date with a girl I met three weeks ago. We met in one non-government organization and fell connection almost straighaway. Last night, we were talking and out of nowhere she said to me:"This is probably going to sound very stupid, but...I was observing you and realized that you remind me a lot of a guy I was having a relationship with. Not the look (except the colour of the eyes), but your body language, the way you speak, joke around and tease, I just cannot believe it." We are flirting with each other and there's obvious chemistry.. Now, it was stupid statement, I agree, but having in mind that she "observed" me, that we are so similar and compatible and went out in the end shows me that she might want something serious with me. What do you think ? All opinions are welcomed . Thank you in advance.
happydate Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Last night I went on the first date with a girl I met three weeks ago. We met in one non-government organization and fell connection almost straighaway. Last night, we were talking and out of nowhere she said to me:"This is probably going to sound very stupid, but...I was observing you and realized that you remind me a lot of a guy I was having a relationship with. Not the look (except the colour of the eyes), but your body language, the way you speak, joke around and tease, I just cannot believe it." We are flirting with each other and there's obvious chemistry.. Now, it was stupid statement, I agree, but having in mind that she "observed" me, that we are so similar and compatible and went out in the end shows me that she might want something serious with me. What do you think ? All opinions are welcomed . Thank you in advance. She's definitely good with words as she's stroking your ego early on in the dating courtship, an excellent man hunter or a player? Women like men can be equally as good playing the other. That was btw, a test from her which basically says like this. Heh dude, I'm currently dating other guys like you and you reminded her of them and I'm not really attracted to you romantically. Not good to you if you just made a general impression to her. She should have said, oh gosh you are a million times better than all the guys who I dated. Just play it cool and let her chase you. By letting her chase you, you then will create a unique profile that you're not like her other guys who would chase her like man hunter to a prey. If she doesn't chase you, then you know she's not really into you and that's the words she meant. 2
coachcomeback Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Well it sounds like a good sign to me. She obviously knows what she likes... and was able to attract it again. Sounds like the hard work is already done for you my friend. Good luck 1
Author Cosmic Ray Posted May 23, 2013 Author Posted May 23, 2013 (edited) She's definitely good with words as she's stroking your ego early on in the dating courtship, an excellent man hunter or a player? Women like men can be equally as good playing the other. That was btw, a test from her which basically says like this. Heh dude, I'm currently dating other guys like you and you reminded her of them and I'm not really attracted to you romantically. Not good to you if you just made a general impression to her. She should have said, oh gosh you are a million times better than all the guys who I dated. Just play it cool and let her chase you. By letting her chase you, you then will create a unique profile that you're not like her other guys who would chase her like man hunter to a prey. If she doesn't chase you, then you know she's not really into you and that's the words she meant. Believe it or not, but my ego was not touched by this because I know who I am, unique in my own way and not comparable to anyone. She is one of the best persons I have met in the last couple of years and a few mutual friends told me the same thing about her. She is kind, honest and a girl with huge hearth (she is an activist for the last couple of years of NGO which is working with the kids impeded in development). Man chaser? Not likely. A player? She might be, but then again, she made a few statements where I saw she is quite impressed with me and my deeds long before I asked her out. Also, she don't look like a bee jumping from one flower to another. Mutual attraction is obvious and physical connection was established almost at the first moment and she was using every opportunity to be close to me or to touch me, same as spiritual and intellectual connection. Her comparation with me was about something she obviously liked in her ex, othervise she would not go out with me. At least I see it that way. I am not going to rush into thing and conclusions, I was just curious to see other opinions. Thank you . Well it sounds like a good sign to me. She obviously knows what she likes... and was able to attract it again. Sounds like the hard work is already done for you my friend. Good luck I am thinking this might be the case, too. Spasibo :) Edited May 23, 2013 by Cosmic Ray
happydate Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 (edited) Believe it or not, but my ego was not touched by this because I know who I am, unique in my own way and not comparable to anyone. She is one of the best persons I have met in the last couple of years and a few mutual friends told me the same thing about her. She is kind, honest and a girl with huge hearth (she is an activist for the last couple of years of NGO which is working with the kids impeded in development). Man chaser? Not likely. A player? She might be, but then again, she made a few statements where I saw she is quite impressed with me and my deeds long before I asked her out. Also, she don't look like a bee jumping from one flower to another. Mutual attraction is obvious and physical connection was established almost at the first moment and she was using every opportunity to be close to me or to touch me, same as spiritual and intellectual connection. Her comparation with me was about something she obviously liked in her ex, othervise she would not go out with me. At least I see it that way. I am not going to rush into thing and conclusions, I was just curious to see other opinions. Thank you . I am thinking this might be the case, too. Spasibo :) Naahh. She's stroking your ego and you are starting to rationalize things here. The first rule when dating girls is that "Actions" always and will be speaking louder than words. The big oh oh is that, she "MIGHT" consider this and might be doing that. Might is a "leading" on words. An insecure woman who's stroking your ego does this because she's trying to dump you softly by suggesting there might be a chance but she's a little bit too afraid to hurt your feelings. If you are sure she likes you, you wouldn't be here on LS asking us to decipher her woman language. Any woman who goes on a first date DOES NOT necessarily mean she likes you. That's your number #1 mistake. Any woman who goes on a first date means that you are her prospect. That's it. It's when meeting her that a woman will determine during the first 5 minutes or less that either she wants to continue further on and eventually leading to sex in a LTR. After that, she'll just pump out a bunch of lead on words to stroke your ego just to past time. I usually just walk out saying I've got other dates to attend to. THEN, that gets their attention a bit that's you're not easy. To her, you're too easy buying into her "MIGHT BE" scenario. In dating, there is no might be or perhaps. It's either yes or no. And that's my take. I had been down that road a few times myself, so I am speaking from experience. Remember that actions speak louder than words, so when you are on your first date and she's continually wanting to get closer to you, eyes contact full of sparkles and the lips moist and natural and her playing with her hair and making sure her Grand Titons of real estate are shown in clear view, you know she's into you. You don't need "might be" talk to convince you that and for me, I always get the first kiss from her. Does not need any might be lead on words from that right?!? Cheers.. Edited May 23, 2013 by happydate
jolie_baby Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Last night I went on the first date with a girl I met three weeks ago. We met in one non-government organization and fell connection almost straighaway. Last night, we were talking and out of nowhere she said to me:"This is probably going to sound very stupid, but...I was observing you and realized that you remind me a lot of a guy I was having a relationship with. Not the look (except the colour of the eyes), but your body language, the way you speak, joke around and tease, I just cannot believe it." We are flirting with each other and there's obvious chemistry.. Now, it was stupid statement, I agree, but having in mind that she "observed" me, that we are so similar and compatible and went out in the end shows me that she might want something serious with me. What do you think ? All opinions are welcomed . Thank you in advance. That would make me think that may be she still has a thing for that guy. 1
soccerrprp Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Another perspective...yes, stroking your ego, but how many people compare you, the new interest, to an old one? I, personally, would never do that b/c it indicates that I am still thinking about my past beau. And, comparing you to him/her is not all that flattering. You need to begin to distance yourself from these comparisons when possible, as in, make certain she beings to appreciate your UNIQUE characteristics. Anyway, hope it works out. It seems clear that she is interested. 2
PogoStick Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Tell her the similarities are superficial as you are much better in bed.
Author Cosmic Ray Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 A little insight... Two days ago my best female friend and I went to the pub where this girl was working. After getting drinks we went outside for some fresh air and a few minutes later she came out to smoke a ciggarette. I continued talking to my friend and then she came to us... She was talking to my friend and then left. My friend look at me with the smile on her face and said to me "I think she likes you. The moment she went out and looked in your direction everything was clear to me, the way she looked at you told me everything. Nice simpathy is obvious, but I am not sure how strong it is for now." We will see each other in two days in that NGO and then I'll arrange 2nd date (we are hardly talking online and via text as she is not into those types of communication, which to me personally is big +). If I don't do something stupid and push her away it's going to develop in the way I desire . Thank you for your insights and time you spent to help me out .
apple OR orange Posted May 27, 2013 Posted May 27, 2013 put 2 + 2 together and dont come out with 5... "you look like someone i WAS having a relationship with" What you should have said there an then was: "wow really, so why did that end then, you didn't like his personality? or you saying this will be the last date?" 1
Author Cosmic Ray Posted May 27, 2013 Author Posted May 27, 2013 (edited) put 2 + 2 together and dont come out with 5... "you look like someone i WAS having a relationship with" What you should have said there an then was: "wow really, so why did that end then, you didn't like his personality? or you saying this will be the last date?" If someones actions remind me of someone who hurted me in the past or of some bad person the last thing I want is to hang out and befriend that particular person. Not all relationships are bad no matter they ended in the end. I have had a few where I really enjoyed and we broke up eventually, but even today, when I think of those girls I cannot help it but to smile because I had great time and a lot of nice memories to remember. About her comment, I ignored it, plain and simple. I just smiled at her constatation presuming that was a little test from her side and if she mention that again I already have a few things to say to her . Actually, I am hopping for it, because I'll close the deal with her, she will help me more than she wants . Edited May 27, 2013 by Cosmic Ray
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