shadow15 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 I'm just curious, I'm not always just around certain people, mainly cause they are different from me and I don't know how to act like they do. I'm just curious on how to get over this.
Axee Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Thats the way you are, be comfortable in your skin .. You will find people around whom you can be comfortable with.. It doesnt mean you are socially awkward
Shepp Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Okay im gonna ramble now and it might be of no help to you or it might be sore bare with me.. Im claustrophobic, quite badly claustrophobic but im a fire-fighter - which is a massively claustrophobic job. I get round it because whenever I make decisions I put the fact im claustrophobic to one side, I pretend to myself im no so it has no factor on my decision, and then I deal with being in the situation once im in it, because I have to deal with it. I do that cause that's how much I want my job. If you want to be 'social' badly enough then do the same - pretend to yourself your not shy or whatever and then make your decision based on that - walk straight up to someone and start talking and once you've started and your in the situation deal with it. Does that make sense? I find it difficult to explain! 1
aliceinthebox Posted May 28, 2013 Posted May 28, 2013 I felt the same and sometimes continue to. My friends describe me as someone that can be social but chooses not to. I think the best advice I can give you is to stop thinking about everyone else and start thinking about you. You must be thinking easier said than done, but.... When you are in social situations I'm guessing you start to wonder what they think of you and how weird you must be or something along those lines. After contemplating I realized that no one really cares that much about what you are doing. Do you ever look at someone and in your mind vehemently judge them in your head? I'm guessing probably not and that's the same for you in social situations. The other people don't care and even if they do it's a split second and there minds drift off somewhere else. If you take this mindset to heart the stress about what others think of you will help you and remove some of the awkwardness you feel. The next thing is working on you. Do what makes you happy and try being the best person you can be and people will come to you. While I'm not saying you don't need to make an effort yourself in communicating with others, but when you try to become positive and become happier people will notice and will socialize with you more and as you socialize with more people the process becomes easier. Hope this helps. BTW you might not resonate with other people and that is fine, but if you don't try to get to know others you might miss out on a really good friend that you never expected to be friends with because you felt like you had nothing in common with them. Everyone is different and someone might surprise you or you might surprise yourself.
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