Axee Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Dating for me is dating for marriage. I come from such a culture. I met a guy five months ago. Initially things went very fast, we thought we have found THE ONE.Our families met, everything ran smoothly.. But when the time came to commit from his side, he started saying he needs time.. Later when we spoke about it, he says he needs time as he isnt sure since he feels we both are equally aggressive and dominating people so he is apprehensive that some issues might occur post marriage. We used to call each other daily, I thought this marriage is going to happen and we had even kissed , (though not gone all the away) I would never have even kissed him if i knew he was going to dilly dally. I was a bit impatient and restless because of my excitement and eagerness to be with him.. Last weekend we met and he told about his doubts, and I told mine , about how I feel so insecure which makes me do this impatient acts. And yes, he is 36 and I am 27. He listened and explained that he is holding himself back, and once committed he will devote his time and attention. I explained that he is misunderstanding me and I am really emotional anout him which has made me overreact sometimes.. I am not dominating and aggressive ( I am a well paid, qualified software professional, GMAT 750, my voice is naturally commanding, I am quite confident but I am not dominating or controlling) Thats it, no calls from him, neither I called.. Earlier the insecurity hurt like anything , but now I am just calm, sometimes it hurts.. I dont know how else I could reassure him..I feel like talking when I am with him, and sometimes I feel I talked too much ... My gut instinct told me that he will be back.. but so far nothing, hopes slowly fading away..
Author Axee Posted May 28, 2013 Author Posted May 28, 2013 I called him yesterday, phone was not reachable . Morning 9am , I get a msg, "Hey vil call up tomorrow" . I reply I called just like that.. No hurry.... My mind is confused thinking of miriad possibilities..... I think I should have give this guy more space, maybe tomorrow I will switch off my phone...
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