jamesdoe Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for over a year and a half. We were in a rough place a while back but it has definitely gotten better. We spoke about planning a vacation a few months ago and we agreed that there would be no working on either of our parts during that week. I told her that if she has to work, I would rather not even go on vacation and she said there would be no issues. The vacation has been paid for and booked for 2 months. She told me today that her boss is asking her to pop in at least once a day. (Obviously this means that she will have to actually work each day.) I told her that I would rather cancel the vacation if she had to work..we had both agreed to put work aside and just be together for one full week. I have my own business and if I can take a week off completely to spend time with her and give her my undivided attention, is it wrong to want that reciprocated? Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thank you.
clia Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 If you own your own business, then you are your own boss, and you make your own rules about what goes on while you are on vacation. She doesn't have that luxury. You understand that, right? It's out of her control. She has to comply with what her boss wants. So, your being mad at her about this doesn't really accomplish anything since there isn't anything she can do about it. Without knowing more about whether it is ridiculous that her boss is asking her to check in once a day (which I typically have to do even when I'm on vacation), I think you are being a little demanding. What does it matter if she has to work for an hour a day? Can't you find something else to do during that time? Were you really going to spend every second of every day together anyway? Heck, go take a dip in the pool and drink a fancy drink and by the time you are done, she'll be done with her work. To me, that seems a better solution than canceling the entire trip. 1
Author jamesdoe Posted May 23, 2013 Author Posted May 23, 2013 If you own your own business, then you are your own boss, and you make your own rules about what goes on while you are on vacation. She doesn't have that luxury. You understand that, right? It's out of her control. She has to comply with what her boss wants. So, your being mad at her about this doesn't really accomplish anything since there isn't anything she can do about it. Without knowing more about whether it is ridiculous that her boss is asking her to check in once a day (which I typically have to do even when I'm on vacation), I think you are being a little demanding. What does it matter if she has to work for an hour a day? Can't you find something else to do during that time? Were you really going to spend every second of every day together anyway? Heck, go take a dip in the pool and drink a fancy drink and by the time you are done, she'll be done with her work. To me, that seems a better solution than canceling the entire trip. It is ridiculous when she works 8 am to 7-8 pm every weekday and is on call all the time. She has had to cut into our time all the time and that is why this is baffling to me.
Leegh Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 I would go on the vacation since it is paid for, and try to make the most of it. At least you and she will get to spend some time together, and it is better than nothing. I do agree with you that it would be preferable if she does not work during the vacation, as that is a bummer having to work.
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