Riseabove Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 (edited) This forum helped me alot in the beginning after my ex-girlfriend broke up with me so I just wanted to share this story. Maybe it will give hope to some of you that want to get back with your ex'es, if you really think that is what you want. Short story is: She broke up with me in july two years ago. I really thought at that point that she would come back to me, sooner or later. But when I found out that she had met a new man only a couple of months after the breakup I began to doubt that it would ever happen. I spent more than a year in complete darkness, really upset by the loss of the love of my life, beforre things slowly started to get better for me. February this year things had started to become good for me. I had gotten my life back on track, working out, dating, playing concerts and generally feeling good about myself and happy with my life. My band had a major television appearance which caused a lot of attention in the media in the country where I live. Sure enough, that was when she decided to contact me. Turns out that she became single in january, saw me on tv and realised how perfect we were as a couple. I have met her a couple of times since february and she has told me that she wants to be with me. Unfortunately things feel completely different from my point of view. I mean, I still love her, but she's been with another man, she chose to break up with me. How can I trust that she will stay this time? I dont think I can. It's sad but I cant go back to her. I feel like I would loose to much pride doing so. The magic that I once felt between us is gone. Maybe if she waited a little bit longer before contacting me after her breakup with her new man, maybe then I would have thought differently. But she seems to afraid to be alone. I really believe that she just wants to be with someone and not me. When I met her she seemed really sad while I was quite happy, because of the way my life has turned out after the breakup. Right now I just feel sorry for her. She messed up and is left with nothing. But it was good for me to meet her. The "NC" made me make up a lot of stories in my head that was far from the reality. While I pictured that they had the time of their life, their relationship was really a mess and it turned out that I was the one having a great life. Meeting her made me realise that I dont want her back. I can finally move on. For those of you that really believe you want to get back with your ex the best advice I can give is to try to be the best person you can and stay away from them. But dont be surprised if you dont want them when they come begging on your doorstep. Thread from the first time I met her after 10 months of NC: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/327147-met-up-ex-after-10-months-nc-mixed-feelings#post4014156 Edited May 23, 2013 by Riseabove 3
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