Splatty Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 I thought it would be kind of neat to hear where/when/how people have dumped or dumped someone. You always hear of the stories of the day before the wedding or on someones birthday. Anyone not been told, the person just disappeared? Anyone get dumped in a supermarket or on the bus? I want to hear all of your stories. Being the tread starter I guess I will share my dumpee/dumper story. Dumper: In person right before a movie, we were already in the theatre and she cried through the whole movie. Dumpee: I got dumped over the phone... well she was so generous enough to rub "I want to be friends still" in my face. A friend of mine got dumped over the phone the day before they moved into and an apartment together.
hurtingandconfused Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 I too was dumped over the phone. It tells you what kind of person they really are/were. Weak, insecure, and of course not worth it.
Amazon22 Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 I've been dumped a couple of times..... 1. "Hon, let's go for a walk, we need to talk about a few things"...... 2. (While engaged) "I don't ever want to be married, have children, or any of those major responsibilities"...that ended the engagement rather quick. 3. (During casual argument) : "Let me guess, you don't love me and you never will"? His response, "Yep"...need I say more? You just need to let the man know who's in charge. -Haley
sweetadeline Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 I had to figure out that I'd been dumped. First he said that he needed some time alone (original, no?) and that he would call in a week. He didn't call when he had said he would (surprise, surprise). In fact, he never called at all--he sent an e-mail. He suggested that we get together to talk again--if I wanted to. And then, when I responded by suggesting some times when we could meet, I never heard back from him. I hate to play the "I-can-top-that" game, but in this case, I think I have a lot of people beat.
Jilly10340 Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 I've been dumped over an answering machine before. The worst of all insults.....of course, I was in 8th grade also....
Papillon Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 How about this. Simply stopping contact completely and moving on. No dump, no nuthin.
Stellar Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 He rang me at work telling me we need to 'talk'. I said, 'Oh sh*t, you're going to break it off with me aren't you?". He didn't reply but asked for me to meet him at the lake after work. We met at the lake and he proceeded to dump me (and blame me, for God knows what) in the place where he first told me he loved me. Charming AND considerate - NOT!
Nurmal Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 My worst experience being dumped was getting a "top ten things I hate about you" sent to me via e-mail. Of course, the guy was trying to make me hate him so that I'd get over him more quickly, but it still sucked! Most of the things he said weren't even true, or were fights I thought we had worked out!
EC Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 I swear true story...lol The first time i was dumped I still remember it...lol It was 3rd grade....and he gave me a pencil so everyone said he was my bf..and I was sooooo happy..and during story time he sat next to me and wrote my name on his sneakers and then two days later i saw him give ERIKA a pencil...Then during story time he sat next to her on the carpet...lol I was so upset I cried in the bathroom... Till this day I have been the one to dump..either because I was lied to, cheated on, or it just wasn't working out.
Stellar Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 Originally posted by Nurmal My worst experience being dumped was getting a "top ten things I hate about you" sent to me via e-mail. Of course, the guy was trying to make me hate him so that I'd get over him more quickly, but it still sucked! Most of the things he said weren't even true, or were fights I thought we had worked out! Did you send him a letter, "TOP 10 THINGS I LIKE ABOUT YOU" in return? 1. Hmm....nothing. 2. That you're my ex. 3. Hmm...nothing (again!) 4. That you're my ex. 5. That your iddy, biddy, widdy doodle can fold in half to equal 1cm in length (not many men can fold it in HALF to equal 1cm!!). 6. Hmm....nothing (again? c'mon!) 7. That you're my ex. 8. The effort you put into trying to use that iddy, biddy, widdy thing (commendable to say the least...er...yeah). 9. That you're my ex. 10. Hmm...nothing - again! Who would have thought, eh?
Stone Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 I am still frigging waiting to get dumped!! My b/f just took off 5 days ago and I haven't heard from him... he neglected to take his crap out of my house!! I once dumped a man in the middle of sex... It was so mean but he bragged about how wonderful he was and about 15 minutes in to it I just said STOP you are doing absolutely nothing for me, there is no reason to continue this..
gwennebe Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 The last guy I was dating that I was crazy about just dissapeared into thin air. His roomate said last she heard he moved out of state but he's in a band and they are going to be playing some shows again very soon in town so I don't know. That would suck if he put her up to saying that. Regardless, he doesn't even have a cell phone that is working now because he never paid his bill. (Don't you just love musicians) even though i'm still upset about it i'm probably better off.
EC Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 Isn't that the worst when they just disappear? No phone call, no letter, no e-mail..? I dated this one guy and everything was going great..then he just poof up and houdinied on me... I called his numbers they were all disconnected? I was like wtf? Then I run into him years later and we become friends I never asked about when he disappeared I didn't care anymore..we began dating again and he did it again!!!! I've never heard from him again...shame too he was cool...I wonder what happened to him?
Stone Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 I am going thru this "disapearing spouse" thing right now and I can say it is the worst thing anybody could ever do.. I would be so happy to just get a phone call and saying I am dumping you than sit here and wait and worry... I guess some people are just cowards!!
gwennebe Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 What's funny about my situation is that I thought he did it once before with me but he ended up calling me and he apologized for the lack of time between communication and I gave him the benefit of the doubt and I actually joked with him and said " I thought you were one of those types of guys that just dissapears." He then told me "Oh, I would never do that babe!" WHATEVER!!! I wonder what he'll do if I do ever run into him. I seriously doubt I am going to go to any of his shows just because I have too much pride.
billybadass36 Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 When I was in 4th grade my best friend convinced me that I had to dump my girlfriend. He made a lot of sense at the time, so next day at recess, I dumped her. By the end of the day my best friend and my "ex-girlfriend" were "going together". I was pist. Broke up with an on-again-off-again girlfriend that i'd dated on and off for 2 years in bed about 2 minutes after having sex. She slapped the s--t out of me. Didn't hurt, though. She'd cheated on me and we were "on again" pretty much just for sex. She was crazy and good at sex. Got dumped in 9th grade because my then-girlfriend had heard that I was going to try to "go up her shirt" next time we "made out". Totally untrue and was told to her by the girl that I started dating like a week later...I think I know why she told her that... ONE time I was the disappearing guy, and I pulled it on a woman I worked with. Okay, well we weren't working together at the time, but it was like a one-nighter and we both were starting at the same law firm after the bar exam. We had one last semester before the bar exam...she was in town for a meeting that we both had at the firm...a rumor had started that we were sleeping together, so I told her, "Hey, Ann (fake name here), I just heard this rumor that we're banging, so we might as well do it since we're suffering the gossip anyway." Well, I just said that as a joke, but a few cocktails later we're in bed going nuts. She left the following morning and started calling me. I just screened every call, never responded to emails, and finally got a viscious letter from her about how I was only the second guy she'd slept with and how she thought I was "The One" and how we shared "intimacy" and that she was incredibly hurt, etc. Well, about 6 months later we start work and it was awkward, but she got engaged to some guy like a week later. She had one of my deal breakers: disgusting table manners. I watched her eat a salad once and I about threw up on myself. I can honestly say, this was the worst I ever treated anyone, but God how she made me wretch. I got kind of freaked out, though, because if I was really only her second notch in her belt, she was overly eager to get it on with me...Again, crazy chicks are crazy in bed.
Stone Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 I think it's o.k to "disapear" after a one nighter but not in a relationship
Jilly10340 Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 You dumped a girl because of the way she ate a salad?
billybadass36 Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 I didn't really dump her. I just had sex with her and then dodged her for like 5 months. And, yes, had I been "dating" her, I'd have dumped her for the way she ate. I CANNOT stand the following: -chewing with mouth open -smacking eating sounds -slurping of soup, coffee, cereal, etc. -talking with mouth full -"shovelling" food into your mouth -getting food all over your face when eating -pretty much any eating noise -smacking/snapping of gum I can't even stand the sound I make when I swallow, so I generally have to eat with background noice of some sort - TV, radio, restaurant noise, etc. Weird, huh?
Stone Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 OK here's a solutions stop taking dates to restaurant's LOL
ziggue Posted October 2, 2004 Posted October 2, 2004 My Ex was confused about his Ex Girlfriend and I. He was like "I've been with this girl for like 4 years. Should I go back to her or keep on going with someone I am just starting to get to know?" when we would talk about it. The next day he said "I need too take a brake. This is getting way too hard to deal with". Mind you this was all the Ex's doing and she got what she wanted in the end. What about dumping someone on the phone when the relationship wasn't serious too begin with (friends with benifits deal) and lived two hours away from you? I've been guilty of doing that before. Glad my current boyfriend lives more locally. Lol.
bluetuesday Posted October 2, 2004 Posted October 2, 2004 a couple of years ago i went away for a week on tour (i was singing in an opera) and when i got back my boyf of six years had moved another woman into our flat. i turned up, parked the car and looked up to the living room window where i saw her looking out. he came bounding down the stairs and dumped me on the spot by saying he was sorry, he'd been seeing someone else for six months and she'd moved herself in before he could stop her. then he cried and said he had no idea what he was doing. what a creep. he'd swung it by packing away everything i owned into boxes and telling her he was storing it all for a friend. his name was fernando. i should have known. heard nothing from him then i saw them by chance in the summer. she was obviously pregnant (he never wanted kids) and the long black hair he was once so proud of had fallen out in clumps. allowed myself a little chuckle about that. knew some karmic sh*t would get him in the end.
Mr baseball Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 Dumper: Years ago in h.s. I was caught with an ex girlfriend by the then current girlfriend. The ex came by the house for sex(very common occurrence) and the current just shows up right after. They both told me I had to choose and I took the ex. I think it was a set up! Dumpee: The ex set me free two weeks later! I guess I had it coming? Dumper: Post h.s. had a pure sexual relationship with a girl. I got tired of it. I cut all ties. Dumpee: My first wife decided on Christmas day to tell me she wanted a divorce. What a "B". Dumpee payback: I invited soon to be ex wife over. I got a "grudge f" and asked her to leave the house! I think that I would change some if not all of the cold things I have done to girls to erase some of my pain. I think its strange how people can be so mean to the same people they once loved? Im guilty!
neptoon Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 Dumped: By my ex-bf of 5 years. We'd been living together for 3 years at the time. We went out for coffee one morning and were in the car reading the paper and he let it slip that he was going to get a small place somewhere. I said, "And when were you going to tell me this?" He said, "It's not like that..." I sat quiet for a minute and then asked him, "Are you trying to say to me you want to break up?" He paused for a long moment and said, "Yes." We had fought the day before about who would get to use the car but we had made up and this kind of came out of nowhere. I said, "OK. Then it's over. I'll go home and take a bag and move out and come back for the rest of my stuff." (Mind you, this was my place that we were living in and I was paying all the rent on it). He said, "Wow, I wasn't expecting to do this today and not like this..." It was weird. No fight and the break up was seemingly over nothing. He did it on the anniversary of the day my dad died a few years before (September 6). It was the most beautiful perfect fall day and I was sorry that it did end on that day -- I wished I could've enjoyed that beautiful day with him. But, looking back, it was a good omen -- it hurt like a bitch afterwards and I cried for a month but I'm much happier now.
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