Sav Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Sooo I've not posted in quite awhile. Sometimes I just creep around this forum reading up on others and other times I just try not to come on at all. It's been months since I broke up with my ex gf and the journey hasn't and isn't easy. NC for prolly as long as the breakup itself and it helped me. I don't know what to feel or how to feel anymore. I'm just aimless, wandering in life now. Not even sure if I'm happy or sad or lonely or whatever. Today is my graduation day and ofc I saw her. Didnt talk to her and it's prolly the last chance I'm ever going to meet her. Heard from a friend that she is attached now. And it really puts me in kind of a bad mood. I really don't know what else can I do or how to do it. I just want to move on and forget everything that happened between us in the past 2.5y of relationship. Some advice or thoughts would be truly appreciated
fiftyofsomethin Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Well damn. Your situation sounds mightily like mine. My ex also broke up with me a few months ago and my graduation is actually on Sunday. It's very hard to see her and know that these are the last few times or THE last time I will see her ever and not really know what to do about it. Part of me wants to say something to her. Do something that won't make me regret this later on in life. But another part wants me to just let it go and move on. It's hard man. But just know you aren't alone in this.
youngnlove89 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Sooo I've not posted in quite awhile. Sometimes I just creep around this forum reading up on others and other times I just try not to come on at all. It's been months since I broke up with my ex gf and the journey hasn't and isn't easy. NC for prolly as long as the breakup itself and it helped me. I don't know what to feel or how to feel anymore. I'm just aimless, wandering in life now. Not even sure if I'm happy or sad or lonely or whatever. Today is my graduation day and ofc I saw her. Didnt talk to her and it's prolly the last chance I'm ever going to meet her. Heard from a friend that she is attached now. And it really puts me in kind of a bad mood. I really don't know what else can I do or how to do it. I just want to move on and forget everything that happened between us in the past 2.5y of relationship. Some advice or thoughts would be truly appreciated First, Congratulations on graduating! That's an awesome milestone! I'm so happy to see you back on here! I'm not happy that you are sad though How long has it been NC total? It must be tough to know she is with someone else. I don't ever want to know if my ex is seeing someone else. That would murder me. I can't fathom the immense pain that brings you. I hope you find the strength to be able to see her and be okay. It's entirely normal to feel what you feel. That's rough. You aren't alone in this, I'm still here too
Author Sav Posted May 23, 2013 Author Posted May 23, 2013 @youngnlove89: Thanks . Well it's been like prolly 8-9 months? And while it's true I've come a long long way from before, I'm still not fully healed I think. The problem is I don't know what I want. I don't want to be with her. Yet I feel upset when i hear the news. Feels like I've been moving forward and then suddenly im stuck. @fiftyofsomethin: Thanks and grats too on your graduation. Graduation is a huge thing and you should go (if you are even contemplating the idea not to). I can't give you advice on what to do because I bliv in keeping no contact. But that's just me. To me, the bridges have burned and it's btr for the sake of all of us and those around us to just cut contact and move on with our lives. Still hurts though. I do wish you the best of luck for whichever course of action you're going to take
fiftyofsomethin Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 @youngnlove89: Thanks . Well it's been like prolly 8-9 months? And while it's true I've come a long long way from before, I'm still not fully healed I think. The problem is I don't know what I want. I don't want to be with her. Yet I feel upset when i hear the news. Feels like I've been moving forward and then suddenly im stuck. @fiftyofsomethin: Thanks and grats too on your graduation. Graduation is a huge thing and you should go (if you are even contemplating the idea not to). I can't give you advice on what to do because I bliv in keeping no contact. But that's just me. To me, the bridges have burned and it's btr for the sake of all of us and those around us to just cut contact and move on with our lives. Still hurts though. I do wish you the best of luck for whichever course of action you're going to take Oh I intend to not talk to her. It's just this ongoing internal conflict going on. It's just hard to see her I guess. Just hard in general. As I imagine it is with you and everyone sharing in this struggle.
esteem-jam Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 I'm just aimless, wandering in life now. Not even sure if I'm happy or sad or lonely or whatever. If you dont know where youre going, any road will get you THERE. Just a quote I heard, or I heard and remixed. You from same town? It would be su***cky if you still had to see her, or had the chances of seeing her. Even more bad if you both graduated and you occasionally seen her progress in jobs and relationships.
youngnlove89 Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 @youngnlove89: Thanks . Well it's been like prolly 8-9 months? And while it's true I've come a long long way from before, I'm still not fully healed I think. The problem is I don't know what I want. I don't want to be with her. Yet I feel upset when i hear the news. Feels like I've been moving forward and then suddenly im stuck. 8-9 months? Man, I think what set you back is her having a boyfriend. Like, when a dog p.sses on a tree. He is marking his territory. And when he see's another dog walk up to that tree, p.sses on it, it makes him mad. That was HIS territory. Your ego is wounded. You're upset. It's finally hitting you that what was yours, isn't anymore.
Author Sav Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 Thanks for the responses guys . Yea I think it's prolly my ego getting hurt. Gotta live with it. Hope I get back on track soon!!!
fiftyofsomethin Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Hey. I'll let you know at least it isn't all bad. It could be worse. My ex is sitting literally right behind me at graduation. But then again I am accustomed to somewhat unbelievable things happening with her lately. After Prom my group drove 50 minutes away to go to this breakfast place mostly because we didn't want to run into other groups and such... and GUESS WHAT? My ex's group shows up. Funny. Ha. Ha ha.
Author Sav Posted May 25, 2013 Author Posted May 25, 2013 Sorry to hear that. It must have been tough. But the good news is..it's over . Now you can start over again!
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