Girlfriend of 4 years and 8 months broke it off, want her back not sure how to do it

[ThatGuy195]

Girlfriend of 4 years 8 months broke it off, finding it hard to deal with the situation want her back not sure what to do. I recently have been unemployed for the last 5 months and about a month after moving in with the inlaws she ended it, told me i wasn't right for her, we didn't have the same goals in life, she didn't love me anymore, all seem like generic reasons to me, but at the same time i can see reason behind them, she is a big country girl im sort of a city boy but not so much and she doesnt think i will commit to the country life in the future, however i would have happily done it. I have been unemployed the last 5 months and she supported me through it, i started playing too many games here and there and was a bit depressed and started neglecting her, i was warned here and there about things she didn't really like and that we need to do things as a couple, by the time i got out of feeling sorry for myself and realizing i need to be more affectionate to her it was over. We never fought and always tried to talk things through, not only 2 months before she was begging me to pop the question. I did the whole try talk it out and tell her i have acknowledged our problems and am willing to work on it, tell her i loved her. All i got was at the moment she 100% doesnt want to come back to it and its over and more than likely nothing will change even with time. So im trying NC at the moment, I know where i went wrong and i still love her, how do i show her i am working my ass off and sort my **** out so that she will even give me a second glance if im not talking to her.

[ThatGuy195]

any input would be appreciated

[imtooconfused]

My thoughts are that the best way to show her is to...

 

Work your ass of and get your stuff back together. The proof is in the pudding, as they say. It's gonna be really hard in this economy, but if you stay productive, clean and sober, she might notice.

 

But in all honesty, it is much more likely to be noticed by your next partner, which should really be your goal.

[robfos]

I think at this point you need to give her space and get your life in order. If she is done with the relationship then there is nothing you can do. You'll just have to wait to see if she decides she misses you and wants to reconcile.

[Cami_paige]

im sorry for what you're going through, i understand it completely but you should just let her be there is nothing you can do but wait and see what happens.

 

Because the more you try the more she might try and push you away, so my advice to you is to let her be and see if she comes back if not, I know its hard to hear but you can try to move on. Trust me i know what you're going through and its fawking hard!