AZA Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Hii, thank you for opening this thread. I've been seeing a girl for 9 months. I made a mistake the other night and today she pretty much broke things off. I've loved her for 6 years and I she never really felt the same way. We have a shaky history and I had more to prove to her than the average person. We were never in an official relationship and everyone, even on this forum, told me that if I continued sleeping with this girl and suffering the turmoil of not getting what I needed from her, that I would just end up hurt. Well, everyone was right. It took everything out of me. I lost interest in my hobbies about mid way through our nine months and now I have no motivation for my career life, for working out, barely for taking care of myself or keeping my room clean. I have extreme difficulties sleeping and eating. I'm a male and turning 22 in August. My heart is torn apart and I have nothing left. I have no energy and I don't care about a lot of things. Please help me. I need some guidance as to what to do with myself, how to think accept thinking about things in different ways, and just being happy like I was before we started seeing each other. I've already been surrounding myself with as many people as possible as often as possible and going out everyday. Please, please help. I'm scared out of my mind, nervous, and anxious and I don't know what to do . I'm a great guy with a good heart and I might have let her walk over me a bit. I did everything I could for her and it wasn't enough. Please share your thoughts <33 -AZA
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Take a deep breath and lets start with this: No Contact! I'm not sure why you'd have to prove more than the average joe, but it's irrelevant. Now, I'm not what sure it was exactly you did that set her off, and unless you were using her as a human punching bag, and I don't mean a stupid arguement, (you don't sound like that kind of guy) this too is irrelevent. Actually it sounds like you've been wasting a lot of time, energy, effort and heart chasing a woman who simply might not be the right one for you. Realize this: you are WAY too young to think your life will not go on without this woman! Trust me, I totally understand you're lack of desire for anything in life at the moment, but at the very least, you need a distraction like going out with buddies. Now brace for impact: It sounds like she was just never that into you. I know that sucks, but from everything you've said- you're chasing a ghost. She can take you or leave you. She was quick to break it off, meaning she's probably been contemplating it for some time. "she never felt the same way". And there's your answer. Now pick yourself up and dust yourself off. If you need councelling, then by all means- go! But do realize your life WILL go on without her. Fact. Remain NO CONTACT, Its truly works.
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