jrtfrisco Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 (edited) Is a last minute date cancellation via text wrong (rather than phone)? Assume it's a few dates in. Edited May 23, 2013 by jrtfrisco
Lani Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Yes. Last minute cancellations are a pain in the ass, and the other person deserves at least a phonecall.
Author jrtfrisco Posted May 23, 2013 Author Posted May 23, 2013 (edited) Okay, good to hear. That was my gut feeling when it happened to me the other night...I felt I deserved at least a phone call. Actually when I got the text (which didn't say "omg so sorry!" etc btw), I called her right after (I guess to get an idea, via phone, what the real deal was), but she didn't pick up. I then texted her and asked her to call me, but she never got back to me. I then texted her an hour later something along the lines of a "...?" reaction (to her post-text silence), and that was it...never heard from her again. As she never got back to me at all, I started to second guess myself and over-analyze what I put in my texts (asking myself, "maybe I should have played it more cool?"), ...then again, another part of me says that I didn't act all that improperly (I mean, she left me hanging on a weekend night, for starters). You think I handled this right? Edited May 23, 2013 by jrtfrisco
Lani Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Okay, good to hear. That was my gut feeling when it happened to me the other night...I felt I deserved at least a phone call. Actually when I got the text (which didn't say "omg so sorry!" etc btw), I called her right after (I guess to get an idea, via phone, what the real deal was), but she didn't pick up. I then texted her and asked her to call me, but she never got back to me. I then texted her an hour later something along the lines of a "...?" reaction (to her post-text silence), and that was it...never heard from her again. As she never got back to me at all, I started to second guess myself and over-analyze what I put in my texts (asking myself, "maybe I should have played it more cool?"), ...then again, another part of me says that I didn't act all that improperly (I mean, she left me hanging on a weekend night, for starters). You think I handled this right? What did her message say? Was she apologetic at all? In any case, the second text was definitely a mistake. Never double up. You should know that!
Author jrtfrisco Posted May 23, 2013 Author Posted May 23, 2013 I do know better than that (to double up). Thing is that date one was great, and leading up to date two she was blowin' my phone up (texts, calls, etc.). After date two she cooled down a lot (I had to initiate each convo, all convos were via text and were bland as a result of her lack of enthusiasm, etc.)...but we still had date three planned. Then, the date of date three, a half an hour before our schedule time, I get the text (although I was wary of how date three would go, considering her apparent disinterest leading up to it, I was still looking forward to it, and cleaned my apartment, bought wine, made nice dinner plans out, etc.). Her text wasn't apologetic...if it was, I would likely not have doubled up. Her reason she put sounded legit, but...it just felt like a slap to the face that she cancelled via text (with no apology in there), and like, a minute later when I called she didn't pick up (like come on, you are there, you just texted me...), and then she didn't get back to my text.
Lani Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 For whatever reason, she's lost interest. But I think you've figured that out. A text back to her, playing it cool would have been a better reaction. I mean, it's not unreasonable for you to want to talk to her, but she texted because she didn't want to talk to you. For the record, it doesn't sound to me like any different reaction would have changed the outcome.
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