crazy1234 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 hi everyone..I just woke up to this very horrible dream about my ex and weirdly i always see the same thing that he's with some other girl..today i saw they were together(the girl he left me for) and i made stupid attempts to get rid of my anger for them in my dream..it reminds me all over again how cruel and heartless my ex has been with me this time around and it just hurts.
ForeverHopeful1 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Hugs!! I am so sorry. It is hard enough as it is. You dont need to have nightmares about it too. 1
Author crazy1234 Posted May 23, 2013 Author Posted May 23, 2013 Hugs!! I am so sorry. It is hard enough as it is. You dont need to have nightmares about it too. i know..its already this bitter..the last thing i need or want is to have nightmares about his cruelty and heartless behaviour.
ChazzB Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 subconscious sometimes is an evil bitch... hang in there, it was only a dream
Author crazy1234 Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 it is..it just creeps me out and sets me in a bad mood
TheMink Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 hi everyone..I just woke up to this very horrible dream about my ex and weirdly i always see the same thing that he's with some other girl..today i saw they were together(the girl he left me for) and i made stupid attempts to get rid of my anger for them in my dream..it reminds me all over again how cruel and heartless my ex has been with me this time around and it just hurts. I know what it's like having these dreams. They're not exactly the same because it's not really a 'nightmare' as such. But I have dreams of my girlfriend coming back to me apologising for everything she's done and us just being incredibly happy. And then the down feeling when I wake up and realise it was all a dream. We've been split up for a little over a month now, things have become a little easier but having these dreams just send me spiralling backwards. So I know what you're going through. One day at a time
Author crazy1234 Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 Yes..i will keep that in mind and tell myself all the time'One day at a time'.It doesnt go that great considering i have a low social life..but it just passes by..i hardly talk to people in my university cause m always very angry and moody and frustrated..i had a lot of setbacks for this guy..havent been with any other guy but him from the time i was 17.. till now i'm 21..it was long journey.But i'm glad God showed me his true colors before we got married or anything..I'm thankful to God..We must remove bad people from our lives to make way for better ones.
Author crazy1234 Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 And themink..We should let it go..i know how every bit of out nerve wants them to come and apologize but u know what?It wont make us feel any better..nothing they can even say or do will make us feel relieved for the grave pain they have caused us..So i guess lets just leave it..and let it be..the nightmares should be temporary..even though they might come back less and less over time..it'll be fine..soon..just hang in there.
cinta_satu Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 Try not to read too much into your dreams. There's not much we can do to control our subconscious, which really sucks. Over the last 4 weeks I've had 3 dreams about my ex - 1 where she was marrying the guy she's with right now and 2 about them getting engaged. I actually had one last night about her and her current bf getting engaged with me standing there watching. For the first time in my life I woke up with tears in my eyes. I never knew you could actually cry in a dream lol. But back to my point - it's really difficult to ensure that you don't dream about your ex. I try my best every night to watching something funny or interesting so my mind is not thinking about her, but it really doesn't make a difference. Keep telling yourself that your imagination is well your imagination and there is nothing true about it. Hopefully with time these things will pass.
Author crazy1234 Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 Try not to read too much into your dreams. There's not much we can do to control our subconscious, which really sucks. Over the last 4 weeks I've had 3 dreams about my ex - 1 where she was marrying the guy she's with right now and 2 about them getting engaged. I actually had one last night about her and her current bf getting engaged with me standing there watching. For the first time in my life I woke up with tears in my eyes. I never knew you could actually cry in a dream lol. But back to my point - it's really difficult to ensure that you don't dream about your ex. I try my best every night to watching something funny or interesting so my mind is not thinking about her, but it really doesn't make a difference. Keep telling yourself that your imagination is well your imagination and there is nothing true about it. Hopefully with time these things will pass. i used to have such dreams and yes..we can cry even in our dreams..i wake up with my heart beating really fast at times from the dreams..its funny what weird things they make us go through when they'r completely happy and unaware of how much they'r hurting us..lol..but anyways i guess this is a part of life..I try not to think about it at all..and i think you should try doing that too..dont think about it at all..soon we'll find someone who'r made for us..and only us. 1
cinta_satu Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 i used to have such dreams and yes..we can cry even in our dreams..i wake up with my heart beating really fast at times from the dreams..its funny what weird things they make us go through when they'r completely happy and unaware of how much they'r hurting us..lol..but anyways i guess this is a part of life..I try not to think about it at all..and i think you should try doing that too..dont think about it at all..soon we'll find someone who'r made for us..and only us. they way i see it is that they are not out to hurt us intentionally - unless there was cheating/abuse/etc. they just moved on to what makes them happy and us getting hurt is just an unavoidable byproduct. we can't do much about it expect take it one day at a time. if we wished that they were unhappy and miserable, then we don't really love them. the pain you feel today is the strength you feel tomorrow.
Author crazy1234 Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 they way i see it is that they are not out to hurt us intentionally - unless there was cheating/abuse/etc. they just moved on to what makes them happy and us getting hurt is just an unavoidable byproduct. we can't do much about it expect take it one day at a time. if we wished that they were unhappy and miserable, then we don't really love them. the pain you feel today is the strength you feel tomorrow. i agree..i dont even wanna curse my ex even though he cheated and left me for someone else..still,i wont ever curse him or wish them unhappiness..they have every right to choose what makes them happy..its just inevitable.so yeah as much as it hurts i i guess we need to accept it and move on..never wish them unwell..and lets just say that its okay and let them go for good.They are just not for us:)
cinta_satu Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 i agree..i dont even wanna curse my ex even though he cheated and left me for someone else..still,i wont ever curse him or wish them unhappiness..they have every right to choose what makes them happy..its just inevitable.so yeah as much as it hurts i i guess we need to accept it and move on..never wish them unwell..and lets just say that its okay and let them go for good.They are just not for us:) i'm really sorry he cheated on you. i can't imagine what that must be like. you must have a big heart to be able to accept it without cursing him - his loss. stay strong and hope you keep moving on one day at a time. 1
Author crazy1234 Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 i'm really sorry he cheated on you. i can't imagine what that must be like. you must have a big heart to be able to accept it without cursing him - his loss. stay strong and hope you keep moving on one day at a time. there is just no point in cursing him..its just worthless..he does not even deserve my hatred . 1
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