Lights Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 I'm always the ONLY one doing any approaching or making any attempts at even starting a conversation, and it's not been rewarding at all. I'm damned sick of that. How would I change this, and get regularly approached, met, and asked out on dates as often as I do the approaching etc.?
Lights Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 Originally posted by disconcertainly Ae you male or female? Male.
tokyo Posted October 3, 2004 Posted October 3, 2004 I´m sorry, but usually women expect to get asked. I´m sure having said that, now a lot of women here on LS will shout: "NO, we like to make the first moves, we like to pick the men." You can either choose to wait till you meet one of these women from LS or you wake up to reality and realize that women wait till they get approached. I´m a woman, I know what I´m talking about What I can tell you is, you have to change your approach. Read more post about this topic and you´ll find a lot of useful advice about approaching women. This in itself seems to be some art. Confidence is the key to success. Good luck!
Lights Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 Originally posted by kooky I´m sorry, but usually women expect to get asked. I´m sure having said that, now a lot of women here on LS will shout: "NO, we like to make the first moves, we like to pick the men." You can either choose to wait till you meet one of these women from LS or you wake up to reality and realize that women wait till they get approached. I´m a woman, I know what I´m talking about What I can tell you is, you have to change your approach. Read more post about this topic and you´ll find a lot of useful advice about approaching women. This in itself seems to be some art. Confidence is the key to success. Good luck! That's all very well and good, but I'm a 21st century man and I expect to both do the approaching and asking AND get approached and asked out by desirable, modern women. My approach may need to be changed, but that's a topic for a separate post.
Quicksilver Posted October 4, 2004 Posted October 4, 2004 I'm with Kooky here males usually do the asking. It's the hunter in males. We are the hunted.
Lights Posted October 5, 2004 Posted October 5, 2004 Originally posted by Quicksilver I'm with Kooky here males usually do the asking. It's the hunter in males. We are the hunted. "Usually" isn't "always". I've witnessed other men be approached. I've seen them get asked to lunch or asked for their phone numbers. I am DAMNED sick of having half my dating life mysteriously missing, and I'm tired of wondering "What the...? How is it I don't count?!" These are the 2000s, not the 1950s. Pre-modern gender roles just don't apply to me. I'm sure I've heard every excuse in existence for why I shouldn't expect the other half of my dating life to exist, unless the excuse doesn't translate to English. [Never mind that I've witnessed others succeed there - I'm supposed to brainwash myself that I'll never get asked out at all, while other men can.] Can anyone here help me learn to get approached and asked out on dates, or direct me to people/places who can teach me how? Note to anyone who imagines him/herself a "hunter": Anyone who has to to hunt down someone he/she likes has SERIOUS problems that dating and/or relationships will probably only exacerbate. No more excuses.
thedreamer617 Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 no wonder no one approached you.... im just scared replying to your thread. If you dont like anyones response to your question then maybe you shouldn't of asked it.
SoleMate Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 Yeah, dreamer's right. You're scary. Here's a hint from a girl: If you want someone to approach you, give them hints. Act approachable, smile, turn on the charm, etc. Be desirable. NO girl will walk up to a man who is sitting there like a bump on a log, scowling and hating the world. Sorry.
wvd Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 Eye contact's very important too. But don't be such a whimp, afraid to talk to women. I found this post the other day (on a different forum) with some great advice on the fourth post down (the one with the numbers). http://unicast.org/forums/topic.php?topic_id=608
Lights Posted October 20, 2004 Posted October 20, 2004 Originally posted by SoleMate Yeah, dreamer's right. You're scary. Here's a hint from a girl: If you want someone to approach you, give them hints. Act approachable, smile, turn on the charm, etc. Be desirable. NO girl will walk up to a man who is sitting there like a bump on a log, scowling and hating the world. Sorry. Thanks SoleMate, you're the first who actually gave hints. What is turning on the charm? (Yes, apparently I do need to ask.) I smile if I am feeling happy enough to smile. I see myself as being approachable (clean, friendly enough, etc. I can't find anything within reason that would make me unapproachable). I haven't the slightest idea anymore on what's really desirable though.
Lights Posted December 17, 2004 Posted December 17, 2004 I noticed this thread here. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t52555/ I'd like to ask those of you who've been asked out before, what did it take for that to happen? Or, for those of you who have asked men out, what about them got you to ask them? I'd MUCH appreciate any help.
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