SadHumiliated Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 So my cheating ex and the girl he cheated with are in the same grad program as me(See my other thread). It's been 40 days since he and I have talked although I have seen him around and at social events. I ignore him at school and in all situations. Today though, for the first time...I saw them walking alone together outside the way we use to. I had thought that they were done...I was walking to my car(we all park in the same area). I have no more feelings for him...but seeing them like that hurt as much as finding out I had been cheating on did. It was that cold feeling that washes over you. I haven't felt that way in a month. Of course I didn't look over at them or say hello. She tries to be friendly but for the most part I ignore her. I feel awful right now. I thought I was getting over it, but maybe I was getting over it thinking they had imploded...shes one of those god faring no-sex girls and hes a drunk and smoker who likes sex...they weren't compatible...but I feel like maybe he "madonna/whored" me. Shes the madonna and I'm the whore. If they start officially officially dating I dunno what I'm going to do. This all just hit me and I needed to get it out. I feel awful. I keep telling myself a relationship that started through betrayal(cheating) won't last but **** it hurts.
BustedUpInside Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Oh no! I can just imagine how awful that must have been for you. I hope you don't take his infidelity personally. It is not your fault that he wasn't able to be faithful. You shouldn't be too concerned with what happens with the new girl. He is her problem now. i am definitely not down playing how hard it is to get over someone when you have to be confronted with their new relationship every day. Just try and stay strong. Remember that you will get over this guy, but he is always going to be stuck with himself, and that is not a punishment that I would wish on someone because he sounds awful!
Author SadHumiliated Posted May 23, 2013 Author Posted May 23, 2013 She was a willing participant in an affair and you think she's a Madonna?!? News flash honey: you can be a virgin but if you are blowing guys to break up their relationships you are STILL a whore. It's not how many folks you do, but the reasons why you do them... Thank you for this; I needed to read/hear this right now especially because of how well liked she is by our peers(no one knows our relationship broke up the way it did). 1
aisuru Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Oh that is a sucky feeling. I wouldn't want to see that either. It's okay to feel what you feel. 1
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