May Sound Silly Or Angry But...

[maiden71]

I've been married a little over a year now to a woman I love very much but also know is going to one day have an affair and cheat on me. She cheated on me with her ex husband while we were dating but I was so in love with her that I went through all the BS and eventually married her anyway. I've realized after that and my first wife that I just don't trust women at all anymore. None of them. I think even the nicest, best wife will eventually have an affair and leave a marriage. Even if her husband is almost perfect in every way she'll leave for a bad boy. I thought after I got remarried that eventually I would trust more as time went by and my new wife proved herself. And she has other then being super needy and not handling my job well as I work for the railroad and am gone a fair amount of the time. After reading around and seeing that this is indeed an epidemic and first hand seeing almost every one of my guy friends and coworkers get screwed over though I've only gotten worse. I was married 15 years the first time before my wife hooked up with an old boyfriend on FB and left our marriage. They lasted about a month. I was so trusting with her and did everything possible to make her happy and bang... she left. I know many will wonder why the hell I got married again feeling the way I do. I guess I'm just an idiot quite frankly. I want to warn all the guys here though that eventually your wife will cheat on you though. I don't care how good of Christian girl and all she is. Just read around and look at your own friends and coworkers. If I can keep even one guy from ruining his life by writing this then I feel I've succeeded.

[KraftDinner]

Yep, we all cheat. Every single last one of us. You've discovered the secret.

 

I'm sorry, seriously. You've been through a lot and you have my sympathies.

 

If that's what you truly believe then your "woman-picker" won't be able to weed out the baddies...because you'll think they're all bad.

 

I suggest seeing someone about that. I would never cheat on my fiance and really it's unfair to paint me and all other decent women with that brush...not that I am offended personally, but you are definitely doing yourself a disservice with that thinking.

[Simpleoldschool]

first, you are over-generalizing the quality of the women that you choose to apply in the very same nature of someones gender and that there is some unilateral comparison. actually with your mentality if you get involved in a relationship with another women because of the bitterness that you have you will eventually force her to share that bitterness.

 

this is called a "circular ATTITUDE"

 

to be honest let me tell you something that took me a long time to learn.

 

its the same fundamental the racist holds to. one of them did it, now all of them are the same way. what you arent seeing is the type of women you choose to get along with.

 

second, BOTH, both men and women do the same. see it happens this way. a women meets a man he does something now shes against all men and treats them to the disfavor she suffered. thats targeting people with your emotions because of their gender. thats called killing the person who had nothing to do with it. thats staying married to this person and hurting someone else like they were the perp and they sit there asking themselves what did they do and what happened but it was ALLLLLL YOU men do the same thing.

 

let me help here.

 

 

"She cheated on me with her ex husband while we were dating but I was so in love( you werent in love you simply accepted her along with the behaviour she exemplified towards you just because of how she is- you attributed an "end all be all" persona with this women.)

 

now,

with her that I( i want to empahsize the you in each of these I's) went through all the BS and eventually married her anyway"

 

 

you married someone knowing full well of the person they are so you cant say everyone was like that because you simply describe whats shes done as being her own personal behavioural traits.

 

i really want you to know something, there are good women. there truly are but because men become bitter out of CHOICE they turn again, someone into an emotional target. IE innocent people.

 

that person has a choice also, usually actually all the time. but after being hurt so many times somehow gender is applied as now a genders behavioural constant and a dillema for you being the receipient opposite of the gender.

 

our society has taught women to be feminist. taught them to be INDEPENDENT. that word is a regularlly used word however when it comes to the feminist it means to keep men on a leash underfoot barking the orders asserting what he does as far as their self-worth or exaggeratted self-worth carrys over into their mental-image of themselves.

 

 

anyways case and point. there are some very loving women but you need to understand your own self-worth to actually find someone you can evaluate to the standard that will treat you the way you treat yourself. you want to be loved, i get it but you are chooseing to be mad about these two women and out of six billion women on the planet you dont know are limiting each one to what you do know about TWO.simply you have allowed these type of women to do this to you point blank. since you have allowed it, you cant say all women are this way. you knew these women were bad choices and let them hurt you. your simply saying i accept everything you would choose to do to me and i wont do anything like leave you but ill stay around and just be mad about what i knew you would do to me instead of avoid you like the plague.

 

first that women doesnt respect you, never will and doesnt even know how. she isnt a person who values a system like respect or if she does its skewed in a manner that it only should be given to her. bad good evil awful decisions alike.

 

you need to take a step back, not blame people you havent even met yyet understand you are beautifull the way you are enough to the extent you find someone who sees the same things about you that you do and that you see how wonderfull she is because of that.

 

get this all women are evil out of your mind. i was there, i know it however i am taking away any opurtunity to see past what i think about a women and actual see who and what she is about. atleasts that what i did but no longer.

 

there are good women and there are good men. however on the opposite end there are evil men and evil women. that is a choice of the heart you choose to have and it sounds to me like i know which you are going to choose to be, just because of what two women did to you.

 

i had five women do it to me and guess what ive met and still know great women. you JUST HAVE TO FIND THEM WITH EYES LOOKING AT THE HEART and not from the viewpoint of whats between your legs.

Edited May 23, 2013 by Simpleoldschool

[Simpleoldschool]

@kraft dinner

 

never say never. i am not questioning your integrity, i am questioning whether or not you can truly say that given the situation accompanying feelings and -cite possibly reason here-.

 

its best to admit to yourself you are capable of that folly and live a life where you subtract yourself from getting involved in situations where you would. ie put a hedge around your relationship.

 

it is my expierience that people who say they never will, fall on their words. i beilieve it is best to understand you are a human being capable of such things and that at one point you can commit such an act but instead you will monitor yourself and in doing so not spend time with other men so you dont develope emotional interests etc etc. come home on time etc etc. you self-discipline yourself to lead a disciplined life. you deprive yourself of wants and keep what you have.

 

also to OP. it is not my wish to tell you you are a bad person. i beilieve the contrary as a result of the reason you are angry.

[Mr. Lucky]

She cheated on me with her ex husband while we were dating but I was so in love with her that I went through all the BS and eventually married her anyway.

Unfortunately, by marrying this kind of woman, you've created a self-fulfilling prophecy. 100% of women don't cheat. 100% of cheating women do...

 

Mr. Lucky

[Simpleoldschool]

damn,

 

MR. LUCKYYYYY!

 

got real on the posttt whatttttt?!?!?

[Meatballsmom]

Even in todays world, there are a lot of woman who would never and have never cheated on their men. And I am proud to say I am one of them.

 

I was married for 15 years to an abusive alcoholic, and later was in a LTR with a live in bf who I did catch cheating, and I had many many opportunities to step over the line, but have never even came close to being tempted.

 

I do not fall in love easily, but once I commit myself, there is no going back, no other man, no matter what he can offer has a chance.

 

I work retail, and must be good looking, as it seems I can't go a day without some new guy thinking he is God's gift, trying to hit on me. The fun part is when they meet or see me with my boy friend of almost 20 years. I am a good 4 inches taller than him, and he is about 10 years older than me. So they come to the conclusion that they have so much more to offer.

 

"Was that your dad?" or "You are so much taller than your dad" When informed that is my long time lover, they seem to get this idea I want to trade down.

 

Let me tell you about him. Only when we first met did I notice our height difference, but this was soon forgotten as he seemed to know from the moment we met how to get me to laugh. He maybe short and only weighs about 150 pounds, but there is so much manliness in him that it would take a half a dozen men to replace him.

 

My education stropped at the high school level. And I am constantly surprised how much my man know. He is a walking encyclopedia, and forever explain things to me. Anything from the Greeks, to Shakespearean history, and even has me liking the writing of Shakespeare, to the latest findings in physics, astronomy, he understands weather, politics, classic movies, sports, I now understand and love football, and am learning to like hockey.

 

He totally believes in himself and us. There are no insecurities. He loves life and has turned my life into an adventure. He is a great cook and has turned me on to many new dishes. Part of the adventure is us trying new recipes.

 

Emotionally he supports me in oh so many way. He is always there for me.

 

And last but not least, my friends and co-workers have also noticed him, and should I ever stray, I know I would find myself in the back of a very long line trying to rewin his heart.

[Harperpro]

Your long winded self righteous posts don't actually leave the site, unfortunately that creates a running narrative you need to continue during your "history" for it actually make sense. For someone so "happy" you spend an alarming amount of time on relationship websites bitching about men.