barrelwave Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 I am meeting my Ex for the first time in 3 weeks after we broke up. We had booked tickets to the event way before we broke up. And we will be meeting next month. There's a pre-event tonight. and it is important for us to arrive to collect things from the organiser at the pre-event. So I texted her what time's good to meet? She put it curtly: "you set the time." I set the allocated time. Done. So I proceeded to ask her what boundaries should we be setting when we meet up tomorrow. She did not reply. So she's been wanting space and limited contact. Yep, I've been giving her that. So I just wanted to discuss about this. If she's willing to meet me for these two events, it does not mean that she's giving me a chance, right? I mean, she might just want to get over this with me and move on, right? I love her. I still have feelings for her. I just wanted to know if she's giving me a chance.
Foreverandalwaysxo Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Did she break up with you? If so, she might just being nice. Just don't talk about the breakup until she brings it up. And don't beg her to take you back.
veggirl Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Umm hmm doesn't sound so much as she is meeting you as she is just going to an event you will also be at. Asking the boundaries question was weird, what did you even mean by that. It doesn't sound at ALL like she is open to a second chance--she barely gave you any response to your texts. You are looking for something that is not there.
Leigh 87 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 mate, there is no hope here, sorry.... How long post break up? How long was the relationship? There is no way she is thinking of getting back with you - she would have acted more like she missed you and was looking forward to seeing you, and possibly said something about "wanting to talk to you about something" Really, unless THEY contact YOU after the break up actually BEGING for another chance, exes very rarely come back. IF anything, exes can come back cos' they wanna be "friends":sick: My ex better not pull that sh*t Be careful though if your ex asks to be friends. RUN. It will NOT lead to a reconciliation. Luckily for you, she does not even sound interested in being your friend:D
Leigh 87 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Oh - and I just read the end of your post: you still love her.... DON'T GO. Sorry but the money you spent on the ticket will NOT be worth the pain you will feel once you see a women who does not want to be with you anymore, when you still love her...' DO NOT go. IF she wanted you back, she knows what your number is!
Author barrelwave Posted May 23, 2013 Author Posted May 23, 2013 Oh - and I just read the end of your post: you still love her.... DON'T GO. Sorry but the money you spent on the ticket will NOT be worth the pain you will feel once you see a women who does not want to be with you anymore, when you still love her...' DO NOT go. IF she wanted you back, she knows what your number is! Thank you for the tip. I was contemplating all of your tips and advice while at work but I was too busy to reply! So I had decided to go this evening. (it's midnight right now in my timezone) Things went pretty well to me, except for some slips I made. The evening was peaceful. We ran errands, and then went out for dinner, and drinks. So we made some small talk. I initiated it most of the time. She responded well to some, while at times she was just replying in brief short phrases. She was always busy with her phone. She is still clearly frustrated and resentful about things that happened between us. But she said that I will get my chance when she sees the changes. She was also pissed because she thought that I was harassing her friend, who is a mutual friend of ours. I did approach her friend, but the intention was just to talk about how my ex was feeling. I said I have no intention to bug her friend. How do I feel right now? I feel empowered to focus on myself first, not. I want to work on my flaws. At least I will know where are my limits to change myself positively, without losing myself. Make baby steps to change. Reflect, and take action. I have just signed up for a beginner meditation course. Let's see how far this will take me. To look deeper into myself. I want to meditate on the seriousness of my flaws. I've read through the NC guide and experiences around LS. And I get it. I know I am set free. I need to move on emotionally and get my sexy back. Because who knows, what time will do to me and my ex. perhaps, we won't be attracted to each other any more.
Deerhunter Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 DO NOT CONTACT HER FRIENDS OR FAMILY. That will anger her even more. If you happen to run into one of them, do not bring her up. Do not change for what SHE wants you to be. Change for how YOU want to be.
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