fmfan08 Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Been flirting with a girl, haven't met her but we've spent a while being 'penpals' of sort, she had been reacting playfully too, messaging on Facebook. Earlier in the month, I wrote a tweet saying "But taylor swift woulda been up there for me though #fit" and she replied "i'd be #1 obv :)" Although I'm not too confident now.. I started a conversation on Friday and we messaged each other a couple of times a day, but I seemed to be getting one word answers when I am being witty, was I being too cocky and should I keep persisting? I didn't feel that I was being overly cocky.. ME - Not been obsessing over any parrot pictures lately, have you? HER - Zzzzzzzzz ME - obsessed with the letter Z instead then, not my favourite letter.. HER - Tough ME - what's your favourite letter really? HER - I'm not playing anymore, we're not friends ME - We don't have to talk again, if you'd prefer (i was joking here, she wrote the exact same in the conversation the week before) HER - Is that what you'd prefer? Because you seem to be making everything difficult lately, you've got dead cocky! ME - Just teasing you if I didn't want to talk to a pretty girl such as you, I wouldn't be sending you this right? HER - God knows with you ME - Firstly, turn that grumpy face into a smiling one! HER - Check ME - more like it HER - Haha.. I aim to please ME - You aim to please me? Now, now (name)! HER - Behave I feel like I shouldn't be continuing this conversation, so I haven't replied being it a "one word answer". Should I reinitiate later this week and persist with how I act? Should I tone it down and ask more personal questions? Or should I leave it and see if she'll start a conversation, to test if she's interested? If you want any previous conversations, I'll post.
madjac74 Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 I'm curious why you are friends on Facebook if you have never met?
Author fmfan08 Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 I'm curious why you are friends on Facebook if you have never met? She added me 3 years back randomly, we spoke briefly then it died off. Then we got talking a whole not a couple of years later and flirting, phoning, etc. Was odd but we clicked. She's about 45 mins away on a train, in the regional area. Of course I had girlfriends and dated in between.
madjac74 Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 She added me 3 years back randomly, we spoke briefly then it died off. Then we got talking a whole not a couple of years later and flirting, phoning, etc. Was odd but we clicked. She's about 45 mins away on a train, in the regional area. Of course I had girlfriends and dated in between. Is she local where you could actually set up a date? It sounds like she is just a temporary outlet when there is a lull in your "actual" lives
Author fmfan08 Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 Is she local where you could actually set up a date? It sounds like she is just a temporary outlet when there is a lull in your "actual" lives She visits my City quite a lot because it's a big place for partying and going out, etc.
Shepp Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Been flirting with a girl, haven't met her but we've spent a while being 'penpals' of sort, she had been reacting playfully too, messaging on Facebook. Earlier in the month, I wrote a tweet saying "But taylor swift woulda been up there for me though #fit" and she replied "i'd be #1 obv :)" Although I'm not too confident now.. I started a conversation on Friday and we messaged each other a couple of times a day, but I seemed to be getting one word answers when I am being witty, was I being too cocky and should I keep persisting? I didn't feel that I was being overly cocky.. ME - Not been obsessing over any parrot pictures lately, have you? HER - Zzzzzzzzz ME - obsessed with the letter Z instead then, not my favourite letter.. HER - Tough ME - what's your favourite letter really? HER - I'm not playing anymore, we're not friends ME - We don't have to talk again, if you'd prefer (i was joking here, she wrote the exact same in the conversation the week before) HER - Is that what you'd prefer? Because you seem to be making everything difficult lately, you've got dead cocky! ME - Just teasing you if I didn't want to talk to a pretty girl such as you, I wouldn't be sending you this right? HER - God knows with you ME - Firstly, turn that grumpy face into a smiling one! HER - Check ME - more like it HER - Haha.. I aim to please ME - You aim to please me? Now, now (name)! HER - Behave I feel like I shouldn't be continuing this conversation, so I haven't replied being it a "one word answer". Should I reinitiate later this week and persist with how I act? Should I tone it down and ask more personal questions? Or should I leave it and see if she'll start a conversation, to test if she's interested? If you want any previous conversations, I'll post. Being a bit funny and a bit cockys great...for a certain length of time! There's nothing wrong with that conversation at all - it sounds like a conversation I'd have but if this is being going on for a while then she probably thinks your not actually intrested in her personally and more just I'm talking to a girl for the sake of talking to a girl. You have to mix it up with sometimes being genuine, talking about her life, telling her stuff about yours. 1
Author fmfan08 Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 Being a bit funny and a bit cockys great...for a certain length of time! There's nothing wrong with that conversation at all - it sounds like a conversation I'd have but if this is being going on for a while then she probably thinks your not actually intrested in her personally and more just I'm talking to a girl for the sake of talking to a girl. You have to mix it up with sometimes being genuine, talking about her life, telling her stuff about yours. I ended up saying "maybe" to her "behave" response, after that I'll ask more personal questions. I'd say my regret is not mixing it up a bit, if this falls flat on it's face. I guess I just found the right moments to try and be witty and got carried away. At least the conversation is good, from what you said. But would this have hurt any possible chances? Especially if I suddenly change the topic to "about her" or if I reinitiate, ask personal questions.
todreaminblue Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 I ended up saying "maybe" to her "behave" response, after that I'll ask more personal questions. I'd say my regret is not mixing it up a bit, if this falls flat on it's face. I guess I just found the right moments to try and be witty and got carried away. At least the conversation is good, from what you said. But would this have hurt any possible chances? Especially if I suddenly change the topic to "about her" or if I reinitiate, ask personal questions. No it wont hurt your chances if you throw some serious stuff in....its fine to joke around sometimes...its fun, its light, its banter........but sometimes it is good to show that person inside.....and find out about her......tell more about you....you cant take a joke and make it constantly...its becomes well...old.....i think your conversation was cute......but switch it up, be cute but be real too sometimes...so she gets to see who you are warts and all......deb
phineas Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 OP, have you actually asked her if she wants to get together?
Shepp Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 At least the conversation is good, from what you said. But would this have hurt any possible chances? Especially if I suddenly change the topic to "about her" or if I reinitiate, ask personal questions. nah I think your good providing that you start slow don't dive in to massively personal questions cause if currently all knows you for is your banters he ain't gonna be answering them. I would probably ease into it, talk about myself a little first - cause that's my favourtie subject - no I'm kidding - cause it Makes you seem more genuine! But I would just say don't get stuck talking about one thing wether its you, her or bein funny
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