prettypeach20 Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 About 2 months ago a personal trainer from my local gym asked me out. We both had a good time and he proceeded to ask me out on 3 other dates (4 dates total). We would see each other once a week and things were great (i.e., we were moving slowly aka. no sex, and it took a while for him to kiss me). Then he went on vacation for a week so I initiated date 5 when he returned. I also initiated date 6 for the following week but he told me he couldn't hangout because he was super busy planning his sister's wedding and mother's birthday (both are happening in 2-3 weeks). However, he suggested that we see each other the following week and scheduled a date. We have gone on 6 dates in total but ever sense the 4th date we've been going on dates every other week as opposed to every week (like before). However, we do see each other about twice a week at the gym where he works/I work out, and talk there for about 10 min at a time. Texting seems to be 50:50 (i.e., he asks about my day, I ask about his) and happens approx. every other day. He has also paid for all of our dates (I have offered but he dosen't let me)... I really don't know what is going on with this guy...I am really starting to like him, yet I see him less and less thus; I am confused about his interest levels. I also feel that we aren't really moving forward in the dating process since we've been seeing each other less... *I also asked him to chill this week but he told me he was super busy/stressed with wedding preparations (i.e., planning a bachelor party)... Is he losing interest or just super busy/stressed?
Treasa Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Stop texting and contacting him. Pull back. You aren't in a relationship. I have no idea if he lost interest or if he's just truly busy, but you should mirror his actions. 1
sweetheart5381 Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 I would say that if you are truly interested in developing a relationship with him that you had better take his word for it when he says he is busy. There is no reason to believe he is lying or losing interest. Also, I agree with the previous advice to just pull back a bit and mirror his behaviour. If you come off as even slightly desperate for his attention it will likely be a big put-off for him. Put it this way, I am a busy woman and I expect that the man I am dating/courting will understand that I am not always going to be available when they would like me to be. I am also severely put-off by men that expect more of me than I can offer at any given time. It's only been a couple months, don't fret about stuff you cannot control Give him some time to get his stuff worked out, but don't just sit there waiting for him. He will respect you more if you keep your cool and do your own thing while he is busy. 1
Casablanca Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Every case is different, but I've learned that for what ever reason, large time off in between dates over a week (caused by studying for finals, sickness, vacation, etc) always seem to derail any momentum and stop the potential of a relationship.
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