ddlovexx Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Blegh. We broke up a week ago, and he already has a new girlfriend. Wouldn't put our relationship on fb after a year, deleted his fb saying he "forgot the password" and after a week later and one day with a new girl, he puts it on FB and blocks me. I had to find out from others. How can you spend a year of your life with someone, say you "love them" walk away without a fight, and have a new girl a week later? I don't even want to be with him anymore but I am dealing the with pain and anger of this. It's insanely ****ed up. I gave him a load of what was on my mind this morning and though that wasn't the best idea, I'm just so pissed off and hurt of how much of a douchebag he is. From talking about marriage to this? The entire relationship feels like it's been a lie. How am I supposed to NOT feel like **** about myself? This is so immature and spiteful and yet when I call him out on it, it's still my fault? There's something wrong with ME? Ugh.
itto ogami Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 "This is so immature and spiteful and yet when I call him out on it, it's still my fault? There's something wrong with ME?" No, it's him all the way. But you need to disengage NOW. Stepping back and going NO CONTACT is your safest healthiest option. 3
BrokenHeartsClub Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Take it from itto. Dudes got the NC thing mastered. The farther and faster you distance yourself the better. I know this is going to sound cliche but time is the only thing that's going to ease the pain. That and break up songs and romantic comedies. Just remember grief has stages and they're all diff for everyone. Denial is usually the first "this is just a temp thing. Im gonna fix this and we'll be back together" Sounds like your at anger now, its a good thing, just don't let it consume you. After that bargaining, depression, and acceptance are right around the corner. What helps me is movies. Believe it or not the movie 'Swingers' is a good one. I think we can all relate to Jon Favreu's character in that one. I think my fave part in the whole thing is when he cuts his ex off when she's saying "I love you", to click over and talk to the new girl. Oh yeah, and eff him. You'll be finding someone new about the time he gets dumped and crawling back. Use this time to work on you, reconnect with old friends and what not. Definitely don't take The 40 Year Old Virgin Paul Rudd approach:) (Sorry Im a movie geek) 3
siankat Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 ddlovexx aka ricearoni it's been a week? today is 22nd May and u posted u caught him cheating on you end of march as u wrote in a previous post so, unless you have had a new relationship since then, he is the one u are talking about. And by the way it is strange for your alter ego on here to be 'liking' your posts....
siankat Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Blegh. We broke up a week ago, and he already has a new girlfriend. Wouldn't put our relationship on fb after a year, deleted his fb saying he "forgot the password" and after a week later and one day with a new girl, he puts it on FB and blocks me. I had to find out from others. How can you spend a year of your life with someone, say you "love them" walk away without a fight, and have a new girl a week later? I don't even want to be with him anymore but I am dealing the with pain and anger of this. It's insanely ****ed up. I gave him a load of what was on my mind this morning and though that wasn't the best idea, I'm just so pissed off and hurt of how much of a douchebag he is. From talking about marriage to this? The entire relationship feels like it's been a lie. How am I supposed to NOT feel like **** about myself? This is so immature and spiteful and yet when I call him out on it, it's still my fault? There's something wrong with ME? Ugh. You said it
Author ddlovexx Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 Huh? Alter ego? I'm confused. In March I caught him with INTENTIONS of cheating, though he didn't follow through and cheat. We got back together until a week ago. Same relationship. I know it's not meant to be and I don't want him. I'm just trying to figure out how to deal with him moving on so fast and the past year being a lie, as though I meant nothing.
crazy1234 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Blegh. We broke up a week ago, and he already has a new girlfriend. Wouldn't put our relationship on fb after a year, deleted his fb saying he "forgot the password" and after a week later and one day with a new girl, he puts it on FB and blocks me. I had to find out from others. How can you spend a year of your life with someone, say you "love them" walk away without a fight, and have a new girl a week later? I don't even want to be with him anymore but I am dealing the with pain and anger of this. It's insanely ****ed up. I gave him a load of what was on my mind this morning and though that wasn't the best idea, I'm just so pissed off and hurt of how much of a douchebag he is. From talking about marriage to this? The entire relationship feels like it's been a lie. How am I supposed to NOT feel like **** about myself? This is so immature and spiteful and yet when I call him out on it, it's still my fault? There's something wrong with ME? Ugh. Step back and realize that people can be harsh and cruel..keep yourself intrigued with new things to come you'r way..I am going through something similar..except that he left me for her..lol so ofcourse they'r probably dating and all that.You should join yoga or gym to let go of you'r anger..might not be the best option but whats the harm in trying or taking a 1st simple step.Let him go..for good..and thank God that u saw what as ******* he is to be so harsh and cruel.
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