Sara. Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Hi everyone! I really, really need help! (Particularly from guys) About a month and a half ago, a Facebook friend of mine (a guy who is taking the same course in college as me, a year behind) posted a status which I commented. He then answered me, I answered him back, and two male friends of him commented as well and joined the conversation. (They weren't talking to me or me to them, just to the guy who posted the status.) Then one of these two guys - who goes to my college as well - liked a comment I made, sent me a friend request (which I accepted) and liked my profile photo. And then wrote a comment (in this status, still) that was probably directed at me, but he didn't mention me so at the time I wasn't sure - and I didn't answer him. I think he also liked one of my cover photos. I'm pretty sure he was interested in me - but I didn't respond, because I looked at his photos and didn't feel attracted to him. In the following 2 weeks or so, he liked another profile picture of mine, another cover photo and a post our mutual friend made on my wall. He was still interested in me, it seemed. But all I did was like one of his cover photos, because I still wasn't interested. But then, about a week ago... I saw him in person. And now I'm attracted to him. So I looked at his interests (on FB) and he seems really interesting and seems to like some things I like - which, in my case, is a bit rare. I don't have many oportunities for meeting intriguing guys, so I really don't want to ruin this chance. So the other day I saw he was online and liked his profile picture, which I thought he would interpret as signal of interest - he hadn't updated the photo, it didn't appear on the feed, so it was clear I had to go to his profile on purpose. But he didn't reply in any way and still hasn't. What went wrong? - I initially rejected him, so maybe a like on his profile photo isn't a clear sign I'm interested? Does he still think I'm not into him and doesn't want to face rejection again? - Did he just lose interest? - Is it possible he's making me wait and 'suffer' until he replies in any way? It this an 'actual' strategy? Guys, have you done such a thing before? Girls, have you experienced it? Also: - Our mutual friend is not a threat to him (I think): to be honest, he's not good looking at all (but is a very good person) and I haven't shown that I'm into him at all, I think. I know you guys aren't psychics, but any comments are very welcome! End of rant. God, I feel silly. P.S.: english is not my first language, so forgive any inconsistencies or mistakes please!
Shepp Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Girls like my profile pics but I don't make the leap that they like me like that! and I certainly didn't know I was expected to return the favour? I just figured they liked the pic! Maybe he's the same? 2
Author Sara. Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 Girls like my profile pics but I don't make the leap that they like me like that! and I certainly didn't know I was expected to return the favour? I just figured they liked the pic! Maybe he's the same? I see what you mean, thanks for the insight But I don't think he "likes" me. I just think he's maybe, you know, mildly interested. Because he didn't just like my photo - it was other profile photos, cover pictures, comments I made, a post our mutual firiend made in made in my profile... I didn't know this guy from anywhere, and he likes my stuff over the course of 3 weeks or so. Am I crazy to think he's a bit interested?
aussietigerwolf Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 if that's considered flirting now then I'm in big trouble 2
Author Sara. Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 Why do you even reply if you're just going to whine? I'm not a big fan of Facebook, either, but you have to adapt to your environment. I may come of a bit obsessed - I probably am - but it's only because it's hard for me to find men that are interesting.
Star Gazer Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 You have two threads on the same subject: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/cheating-flirting-jealousy/395609-facebook-flirting
madjac74 Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 P.S.: english is not my first language, so forgive any inconsistencies or mistakes please! Your English is better than most English speaking people. Anyhoo seriouly people, disconnect from Facebook. Rather than dig around his posts and pictures looking for clues about how he feels about you, try just talking to him and asking him to do things. I know that is a terrifying stretch. It seems now a days with all this technology we expect to be able to determine our romantic futures before we even try. I can already picture you guys on a date... both on your smart phones checking each others status updates. 1
somedude81 Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 The "flirting" you're doing is extremely subtle and it would be a miracle if anybody picked up on it.
Author Sara. Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 You have two threads on the same subject: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/cheating-flirting-jealousy/395609-facebook-flirting I know. I realized the 1st one was in the wrong place, but it seems I can't delete it myself.
Author Sara. Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 Your English is better than most English speaking people. Anyhoo seriouly people, disconnect from Facebook. Rather than dig around his posts and pictures looking for clues about how he feels about you, try just talking to him and asking him to do things. I know that is a terrifying stretch. It seems now a days with all this technology we expect to be able to determine our romantic futures before we even try. I can already picture you guys on a date... both on your smart phones checking each others status updates. Thanks re: my english Believe me, I'm not that kind of person, I'm actually a little anti-modern technology and social networks, I think they're a curse . I'm just over analyzing and paying too much attention to Facebook in this matter because guys who like "Citizen Kane" and Hitchcock are very, very hard to find...
Author Sara. Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 The "flirting" you're doing is extremely subtle and it would be a miracle if anybody picked up on it. That's what I suspected. I'm just doing some serious over analyzing.
madjac74 Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Thanks re: my english Believe me, I'm not that kind of person, I'm actually a little anti-modern technology and social networks, I think they're a curse . I'm just over analyzing and paying too much attention to Facebook in this matter because guys who like "Citizen Kane" and Hitchcock are very, very hard to find... The Birds is one of my favorite movies! See you found someone without Facebook! And you don't even have to like my profile pic or comment on what I had for breakfast
Author Sara. Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 The Birds is one of my favorite movies! See you found someone without Facebook! And you don't even have to like my profile pic or comment on what I had for breakfast I prefer Rear Window and Psycho Ahah very witty! I didn't use to be a silly young person, guess I just became one.
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