3 dates over a year ago, recently bumped into each other, her comments seem flirty

[Babolat]

I recently bumped into a girl I went out with 3-4 times over 16 months ago. There was no real connection for both of us, but we had fun. I never contacted her and she never contacted me again.

 

After bumping itno each other she texted me, we chatted for a few days, then met for a drink. We talked about our relationships since we last saw each other, life stuff, her career, mine, stuff like that.

 

When we left she said "Good night sexy". She recently texted me saying "What are you doing this weekend sexy" and this morning sent me a text that starte with "Hey gorgeous". She has also texted me stating she does not understand why I am still single as I am such a great catch, and even mentioned introducing me to one of her friends.

 

I do not get the "I want to date you vibe from her" and I do not have that vibe for her. She is attractive, fun, confident, extroverted and has a lot of male friends.

 

Is she flirting and/or can this be considered normal for some girls with their guy friends?

[Shepp]

Depends on the girl - ive got a few girl mates who'll call me sexy or gorgeous - I mean they are flirting but just in a fun way not in a 'date me' way!

[BluEyeL]

But why do you care? Do you want to date her again?

[Babolat]

No, I do not want to date her, actually we never did date.

 

I care because an ex and I are having talks about trying again, we have seen each other a few times over the past few weeks. I do not want to hang out with this other girl if indeed she is showing signs of interest, more than friendship, nor do I want my ex to find out I hung out with someone who was addressing me that way, if again it's a sign of more than friends.

 

Hope that makes sense.

[BluEyeL]

Oh, I see... I think she is showing interest. If you are not interested, tell her casually that you have someone in your life. "You know, when you asked why am I still single? In fact someone from the past just entered in my life and I don't consider myself single right now". You gave her mixed signals probably by going out with her and she's trying.

[Babolat]

Well, I texted her that a couple of days ago, letting her know I had spent some time with this woman from my past. The woman from my past and I have not had a formal conversation yet about what we want to do; just spending time together right now.

 

I got the "Hey gorgeous" this morning after that. My best guess is she is not showing interest, rather she likes the male attention, having a nice looking guy around/with her, she is a very social person, has lots of male friends she has talked to me about that are "built" and good looking, though she would never date them.

 

I guess, in a way, I am questioning if I want to be a friend with someone like this...or if I am judging her too much, and it's "just her" way of having fun, being friendly.

[Babolat]

Met her out for drinks last nite with a lot of her friends, male and female. I think it's just who she is as I could see similar interaction with some of the other men at the table.