Lay Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 this is an update: i haven't spoken to my ex since the breakup which was exactly a month ago as of today. NC for four weeks and i haven't even looked at his fb! though it has been a month, i am still not over him:/ (went out for 6 mos) it really sucks because i haven't stopped thinking about him (not even for one day). i was tagged in a photo yesterday on fb and i realized my ex took down a photo of us.. i admit that i teared up a little (over something so stupid! it's facebook!) but when this happened i realized that I'm really not over him. this is really hard.
siankat Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 I feel for you i do. I remember one month post break up thinking ' i dont feel any better at all' and i think its cos, while we are making progress, it doesnt feel like it because we have had a months worth of feeling awful and it tarnishes everything else we do, with our feelings about the failed relationship. Happier memories seem distant, and further from our grasp than ever. Especially a setback like reminders that pop up of our exes just freshens the underlying pain. The good news is, this is a normal part of the process and if you just stick to nc til you dont hurt when u think of them, it will help enormously. If you have been doing it thus far, it means u can. Thats great, and well done! We all know here how hard that is. Keep doing what u are doing and trust me when i say, ur feelings will catch up and one day be what u want them to be over this whole episode, and that is, gone, no longer hurting u.
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