alexjames88 Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 My ex split up with me nearly one year ago after 7 months together. He told me loved me and that he does not need to tell me. But that he hated my lifestyle and it was about his head not his heart. I was a heavy drinkier. Actually I am an alcoholic. He said it wasn't just the drinking. It was my whole lifestyle. I was financially reckless. He came to see me one day and I was locked out and drinking. I had forgotten my keys and tried to break my front door down. Another time I went to his place and was drunk and he started crying that night. I slept in his bed and woke up in the morning sober. He said he had to leave because sex was important to him and that our sex was bad and it was in the end. I was a mess. We met up six months after we broke up. I messaged him and he said he was thinking about me a lot and missed me. We held hands and he messaged me on Facebook after the meeting and said he wanted to kiss me goodbye like old times. I pushed too hard, too fast and was still smoking and he changed his mind and messaged me and said I should move on. That I will and that I should not contact him this much. We are still friends on Facebook so he has not totally deleted me from his life. A month ago I sent him a long Facebook message saying I messed up. It was my fault we broke up and that I had changed. That I deeply loved him but if that just meant friends then that was fine. He was abroad and replied saying he hoped to reply when he was back. I thought his phrasing was strange. "hope" to reply when I am back. Strange? So he is back in London now but has not replied. I saw a photo of him with another guy. He is 29 and this boy is 19. I do not think they are boyfriends yet but maybe it will develop. Is this why he will not reply to me? Because he is conflicted? He loves me but is trying things with this new guy? So my point is with time do you think we will ever speak again? Do you think he will ever want to see me again? The reason I think he still loves me is because if he had totally moved on then he would have just replied and said I have moved on...no? Do you think when things fail with this new guy he will miss me and talk to me again?
mammasita Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 My question is have you gotten help for yourself? I think that if you work on bettering yourself, you will eventually realize that you don't need/want him and/or you will meet someone "better".
Author alexjames88 Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 Yes I am all better. I am asking about him not me. What do you guys think? Is there a second chance down the line to be had?
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