I can't seem to let go..

[HopelesslyStuck]

Long story short, I dated this guy for two years. We broke up due to many things, but mainly fighting. He cheated, and lied a lot. I did things myself but not anything like that.

 

Anyway, we've been broken up for four months. With little to no contact what so ever. I texted him a couple times a few months ago to tell him I want to return his stuff, which we met each other to do so. I texted him saying "For what it's worth, I wanted to apologize for the things I did in the past and I wish you the best."

A about a month ago, I saw him when I visited my old school. I was with my friend, and he came in there saying "hi (my friends name)" and said hi to me. I smiled and said hi back..

 

Other than that. There hasn't really been anything. He's fine with it.. he hasn't initiated contact as far as calling or texting..

 

It's just a crappy feeling.

 

I want to contact him, not to talk about the past, just to see if we could even just be friends. I feel like that would be my closure.

 

We have mutual friends, so I know he isn't in a new relationship or anything like that, but I know he's talking to a girl or two.. so he must be content.

 

I'm just really wondering whether I should text him or not.. I'm scared he wont reply and I'll regret it, feel stupid, and feel worse about this break up..

[mortensorchid]

That's rough. Trying to be friends works or it doesn't, you need to get busy doing other things and take your mind off him. That's the only way to get over someone.

[ddlovexx]

I hate to tell you (and I'm going through the same thing) you can't be friends... at least not now. It took me two years to be friends with my first ex and now we are great friends because there are absolutely no feelings.

 

Being friends with him at this point will be a constant reminder and a ping at your heart. I know it's a crappy feeling, my recent ex pretends I don't exist. But I tell myself hey, one day someone is going to be nuts about me and won't ever want to spend a day away from me.

 

Also, he cheated on you... you'll always be wondering. I did the same thing. We got back together, I constantly wondered who he was talking to and if he was lying again. Now that it's over I don't have to worry about that and though he's got a new girl and it hurts, I know that my gut was right and I should follow my instincts.

 

It's called a breakup because it's broken, darling. Don't pour salt in your wounds... let them heal.

[SadHumiliated]

Long story short, I dated this guy for two years. We broke up due to many things, but mainly fighting. He cheated, and lied a lot. I did things myself but not anything like that.

 

Anyway, we've been broken up for four months. With little to no contact what so ever. I texted him a couple times a few months ago to tell him I want to return his stuff, which we met each other to do so. I texted him saying "For what it's worth, I wanted to apologize for the things I did in the past and I wish you the best."

A about a month ago, I saw him when I visited my old school. I was with my friend, and he came in there saying "hi (my friends name)" and said hi to me. I smiled and said hi back..

 

Other than that. There hasn't really been anything. He's fine with it.. he hasn't initiated contact as far as calling or texting..

 

It's just a crappy feeling.

 

I want to contact him, not to talk about the past, just to see if we could even just be friends. I feel like that would be my closure.

 

We have mutual friends, so I know he isn't in a new relationship or anything like that, but I know he's talking to a girl or two.. so he must be content.

 

I'm just really wondering whether I should text him or not.. I'm scared he wont reply and I'll regret it, feel stupid, and feel worse about this break up..

 

The thing is...you can be friends with an ex who respected you on some level. Someone who cheats on you doesn't respect you and never did. Don't give the the gift and the satisfaction of a friendship to this person, they do not deserve your friendship, time, memory, or energy. The best revenge and the best way in the long run to feel good about yourself is to move on.

 

My ex cheated on me and moving on...ignoring him and just living my life has been empowering. I've had setbacks...but for the most part I have no regrets as the feelings have started to fade. It's become a game for me...first it was to see how long I could go not talking to him...and now to see how long I can go not thinking about him.