BustedUpInside Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 I have a confession to make. A lot of the time, I don't make posts on here because I believed that a lot of the other readers and posters wouldn't be able to understand my last relationship. I am in my 30's, my relationship was long term, we lived together, not a lot of drama, no kids involved, after the break up I moved to another state so the chances of running into him is extremely low. A lot of the posts on here are about relatively short term relationships (less than a year) and both parties are really young and always seem to be running into each other while out on the town. However, I was wrong. There is a lot of common ground in the break ups regardless of how long or short the relationship prior was. The love that others feel can be just as intense as the love I felt and the break up just as hurtful. What I am awkwardly trying to say is that this site has really helped me. It's hard to talk to my family or friends because they either seem to want to just say super mean things about my ex which is not helpful or give me false hope about a reconciliation which is even more damaging. So thank you guys for the advice and stories because without reading about other people's break ups, I might have felt alone, now I feel normal. 11
aisuru Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Awww, thank you. I agree with you. This site has helped me a lot too. Provides a nice outlet. 3
aisuru Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Replacing one drug with another... that's why I'm here. HAHA, I was just thinking today that I should uhhh, hang out here a little less. :love: 1
Author BustedUpInside Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 I feel like cyberstalking my ex was like a drug. It was bad for me, it only felt good for the moment while I was doing it and it was never enough. I always wanted to take it to another level. LS is more like working out. Too little and it is not even worth it, too much and it can be damaging and take away from other areas in life. Just the right amount and I get stronger and feel better
1908 Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 I have a confession to make. A lot of the time, I don't make posts on here because I believed that a lot of the other readers and posters wouldn't be able to understand my last relationship. I am in my 30's, my relationship was long term, we lived together, not a lot of drama, no kids involved, after the break up I moved to another state so the chances of running into him is extremely low. A lot of the posts on here are about relatively short term relationships (less than a year) and both parties are really young and always seem to be running into each other while out on the town. However, I was wrong. There is a lot of common ground in the break ups regardless of how long or short the relationship prior was. The love that others feel can be just as intense as the love I felt and the break up just as hurtful. What I am awkwardly trying to say is that this site has really helped me. It's hard to talk to my family or friends because they either seem to want to just say super mean things about my ex which is not helpful or give me false hope about a reconciliation which is even more damaging. So thank you guys for the advice and stories because without reading about other people's break ups, I might have felt alone, now I feel normal. A whole lot of this. This site has been a god-send. I made a lot of mistakes with my ex unfortunately. Some I wish I could undo. But what's done is done and there's no turning back time. But after reading the threads and advice on LS, I feel wiser about relationships as a whole and hopefully can put my new-found knowledge to better use in future relationships. 2
LoveB86 Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 I like how this site is like online help 24/7. No need to dial, schedule an appointment, or wait for an operator. It's Right in your hands when you're in need Am glad with your progress Miss! Stay beautiful! 1
Author BustedUpInside Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 I like how this site is like online help 24/7. That's what I like too. No matter what time it is (often at 2 a.m.) I am able to either purge all my inner feelings or to actually get some practical advice on how to handle a particularly difficult situation. I really think what helps the most is that I have never had a break up problem that wasn't already documented here in some fashion. It is really comforting to know that my reactions and thoughts are far more normal than I thought and I am not, in fact, going crazy as I suspected before joining this site.
TaraMaiden Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 I'd just like to reassure everyone that I DO sleep sometimes.......
andre84 Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 OP - I felt the same way initially... I'm coming out of a very serious RS and I thought that it would be hard to relate to other people, but a BU is a BU no matter the time frame. I am happy to say that initially I was posting/reading posts on this site 24/7 and it helped me A LOT!... but now I have been able to move on and I only check the site when I have my down moments. (Like this morning) At this point (2 months after BU and like 3 weeks NC) my main problem has been dreaming. I keep having dreams of an alternate reality where my EX and I are trying to work things out or did and I wake up feeling very depressed. But when that happens I just hop on this site and read some stories and help other people looking for input... Anyways, I am very glad that I found this site! 1
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