How To Meet Women In A New Area

[jlwelch]

First, a little bit about myself. I recently moved to a new area to start up with an ideal career. Job wise, I am very happy right now. However, since this new area is in New Mexico and far from the Midwest, I find that I know very few people here.

 

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The problem now is that I am so used to meeting people in classes at school or through friends that even though I have lived here for a few months I don't really know anyone outside my coworkers. As a result, I am finding it very difficult to meet people. I didn't really have time for dating during my last year of graduate school so it has been quite some time since I have had someone special in my life and I am hoping to find that again.

 

One coworker actually suggested dating sites and I confess I gave "PlentyofFish" a try. I got some responses but not much (and those I did get were from women I had absolutely no interest in). After doing a bit of reading I came to realize that dating sites simply don't work as women get crap-loads of messages and there are a lot of creepers out there.

 

There has got to be a good way of meeting women after the college years are done. Has anyone else had this problem and if so, how did you overcome it?

Edited May 22, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Mr_Flay]

One of the best ways IMO is to combine your hobbies with a social environment where there could be girls. Join clubs, enrol in classes, participate in workshops. Naturally, you should only pick the things you're interested in, not something you find silly and boring just to meet girls. If there aren't any interesting people in the club/class, move on, try something else. If you're in a big city, there must be lots of things to try.

[melodicintention]

Try using meetup.com. Join some sporting, crafting or other type group where you can start meeting new people. Meeting people is tough when you move, I know I've moved across the US 5 times now. I've used that site before and met a lot of people that had targeted interests.

 

You are right about dating sites. I can't use them, they are useless as I do get inundated with crap emails and it's impossible to sort out the good guys from the creeps. Also many of the paid dating sites have fake profiles, if you approach them as an "affiliate" you can get them to admit they have paid employees who entice you to stay online and upgrade. I'm actually trying professional matchmaking here in Los Angeles as I have run out of options to meet potential dates that are serious and not a scammer.

 

Another way you could meet ladies is by getting a part time job in a place where they frequent (maybe a gym or a bartending job, bouncer at a club, etc). I am actually planning on getting a p/t job bartending by the beach so I can make some new local acquaintances.