indienotemo Posted September 30, 2004 Posted September 30, 2004 Alright, I'm in a unique situation where I can't really ask any of my friends for advice, so I turn to all of you. Here's the story: A week ago (last Thursday) my neighbor invited me down to her apartment to hang out. Her friend came into town as well. We have a few drinks and before I knew it I was just talking and talking with this girl (the friend). It seemed like we really hit it off. The next couple days I would think about her once in a while, and it would make me smile, so I figured what do I got to lose? I asked my neighbor on Sunday night if I could get her phone number, and girls being girls, said she would need to check with her friend first. About ten minutes later I get a phone call, "Grab a pen." So I wait about an hour 'cause I knew my neighbor had talked to her and I didn't want to seem to anxious or whatever, and I called her up and asked her out for a cup of coffee and a movie. She said yes, and we were planning on meeting Monday night (the next day). Monday rolls around and I get a voicemail while at work. It's her. She's "really, really sorry," but forgot she had to babysit for her sister, so she said she would have to take a rain check and that I should call her back. I go home, give her a call, she doesn't answer, so I leave a message telling her it was okay, no big deal, give me a call and we'll get coffee or something. I know it's only been a few days, but it's killing me! It's weird. So, the question is, should I give her another call? Should I wait longer? Or should I just say screw it, she's not interested, and move on? I haven't really "dated" since high school, so I guess I'm a little rusty. My past two relationships were serious ones that didn't start by dating. They started out as friendships and moved into something more serious. I'm not looking for serious right now, I just want to have a good time. This girl though, she really gets me going for some reason. edit: She mentioned when I first met her that she had a myspace.com account. I got on there and found her in like an instant. So would e-mailing her through that be a bad idea? Better or worse than calling again? I don't wanna come off as a weird-o or anything. thanks.
bluechocolate Posted September 30, 2004 Posted September 30, 2004 I would give her one more call. Like you said I'm not looking for serious right now, I just want to have a good time. - so what have you got to lose?
Author indienotemo Posted September 30, 2004 Author Posted September 30, 2004 Originally posted by bluechocolate I would give her one more call. Like you said I'm not looking for serious right now, I just want to have a good time. - so what have you got to lose? LOL, my pride, but I guess I don't have too much of that left. does anybody think it would be a bad idea? or that i should wait? isn't there a one week rule or something?
Scangie Posted September 30, 2004 Posted September 30, 2004 The one week rule is bogus -- if a guy waited a week to call me, I would have already assumed that he wasn't interested and moved on. Most girls want to hear something from a guy within 2-3 days. Go ahead and call her!
Majik45 Posted October 1, 2004 Posted October 1, 2004 I'd give her 2-3 days and then call. She may just have gotten busy. Don't wait a week.
Author indienotemo Posted October 1, 2004 Author Posted October 1, 2004 Haha, I did call last night. I wanted to make it as pressure-free as possible, so I left a message (she didn't answer) saying a buddy and mine were gonna be in her neck of the woods and if she wanted to get a cup of coffee, she should give me a call. I told her to call me either way actually, and that we would be out fairly late, but I never heard from her ah well, can't say I didn't try. I'll give her a day or two to contact me, but until then, I can't invest time pursuing if she's not going to play ball. It just sucks, 'cause I was pretty smitten with this girl (did I just say smitten?) thanks y'all again for your help
fundamental Posted October 2, 2004 Posted October 2, 2004 Hey, don't waste your time. If she is not willing or able to call you back, it is not worth it. You will be left wondering and it might affect how to deal with these situations in the future. Some women like to play games like this....I suggest that you don't. Even if she isn't playing a game and she is busy. Just do your own thing and when she is ready, she will call you. fundamental
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