forgetmenot75 Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 Today is day 19 NC (I broke up because he doesn't love). He sent me a "wink" on a dating site thinking I was another woman 5 days ago. I replied "haha". Today he sent me a message: "OK, you got me...;)" Here I am, grieving him and on top of that today's his birthday.
TaraMaiden Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 He's not worth you fretting over. he posted something meant for someone else, and then laughed it off. 19 days after you went NC. He's a jerk. Phukk him. 1
Author forgetmenot75 Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 Sure, I wont reply, I don't have anything to say to him. There are good days and bad days. Today was a bad day, and now I'm feeling really angry. I'm feeling very stupid, for being with this jerk for so long.
Author forgetmenot75 Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 Should I reply to him this?: "I don't care what you do, I always knew you were seeing/looking for other women." Or should I remain silent? I'm feeling really angry right now, I don't know if it's better just no reply or letting him know I always knew he was a jerk.
aisuru Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 Should I reply to him this?: "I don't care what you do, I always knew you were seeing/looking for other women." Or should I remain silent? I'm feeling really angry right now, I don't know if it's better just no reply or letting him know I always knew he was a jerk. What reaction are you looking for by sending something like that???? He does NOT care if he's a jerk or not. You telling him will be a feather in his cap. Not worth it. 1
TaraMaiden Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Sure you won't reply, you don't have anything to say to him.... That would be of any use, that would have the slightest effect, or that would even have the desired effect. He isn't worth your time. Don't let him occupy precious room in your thoughts when it's blatantly obvious he doesn't let you occupy his... Your mind would be more productively spent elsewhere. Like, counting the patterns on your curtains. That is 100 times more worthwhile than thinking about him..... 1
crazy1234 Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Should I reply to him this?: "I don't care what you do, I always knew you were seeing/looking for other women." Or should I remain silent? I'm feeling really angry right now, I don't know if it's better just no reply or letting him know I always knew he was a jerk. not worth it..what will you gain out of it anyways?its only going to make you angrier..trust me..once u decide to write something..u'll only keep wanting to write more and more which will just make things worse for yourself. 1
Author forgetmenot75 Posted May 23, 2013 Author Posted May 23, 2013 Thoughts...Crazy Iternet. I can't even log in in the dating site I used to visit anymore, I don't want to see him there, I don't want to be waiting for him to talk to me, I don't even want to see whether he's online or not. I feel trapped. I deleted my profile on meetme because I couldn't stand him talking to other women, AND I was anxious to see if he visited me or no. So, no more meetme. I need to figure out another things to do besides sitting in front of the computer. I missed him very much today while I was at the supermarket (?) I almost cry, then I thought he never felt the same as me. I don't know, not a good day today. I wonder when I will be OK. I know he's an idiot, I wish my brain could understand this too.
crazy1234 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Thoughts...Crazy Iternet. I can't even log in in the dating site I used to visit anymore, I don't want to see him there, I don't want to be waiting for him to talk to me, I don't even want to see whether he's online or not. I feel trapped. I deleted my profile on meetme because I couldn't stand him talking to other women, AND I was anxious to see if he visited me or no. So, no more meetme. I need to figure out another things to do besides sitting in front of the computer. I missed him very much today while I was at the supermarket (?) I almost cry, then I thought he never felt the same as me. I don't know, not a good day today. I wonder when I will be OK. I know he's an idiot, I wish my brain could understand this too. you'r brain will..give it time..until then try doing something that keeps you'r mind of off him.Do healthy things..join gym or yoga..learn something u always wanted to.Try new things even if they dont hold any meaning in the future..Do it for now..it surely has its rewards too.
Author forgetmenot75 Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 Day 22 NC. When this pain will stop? I just cried for 15 minutes without stop and now I'm completely drained. I'm feeling so down. when I will feel OK again? It's been 3 weeks, and I'm still feeling very sad and hopeless. What hurts the most is to realize I was living in a dream, that he never cared. Horrible feeling of rejection. I know he's a jerk, yet still need some kind of relief that I was important for him. Of course I was not, and that is something I just can't bear. Ugh :lmao:
TaraMaiden Posted May 24, 2013 Posted May 24, 2013 You're essentially back at square one. That tiny fragment of Contact just derailed you big time. Only,. the climb out now, won't be so bad. But be good to yourself.... Accept this has happened. Accept that this is how you feel, and that it's natural, and that you have every right to feel this way. But do something for yourself that you know will make you feel better. Whether it's going out with friends, (Keep off the alcohol!!) or just soaking in a deep, hot bath, with every drop of bubble bath you have. Do something. Be proactive to your healing. Don't wallow.
Author forgetmenot75 Posted May 24, 2013 Author Posted May 24, 2013 Ugh, why I'm in square one, if he messaged me that stupid thing? I didn't reply to him! Tara, I wish you were here... Really.
TaraMaiden Posted May 25, 2013 Posted May 25, 2013 Oh you have no idea... how often I wish that too, for you and others. (((Hugs))) But you did reply. You sent 'haha'. That showed him that you were paying attention, and that he aroused interest, however mild. That one little tiny 'haha' sent you diving into the whirlpool..... Oh sweetheart, I truly do feel your pain.....
Recommended Posts