BlackRaven Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 Old friends old love To cut a long story short guys I need advice and someone to talk to Had a best friend was in love with him he moved away and we carried on a long distance friendship after realising I can't keep doing this to myself I moved on and never telling him my feelings I found a nice guy got engaged and limited my contact naturally as I was now in a relationship taking most of my time. My friend kept trying to maintain contact and I told him my feelings that ill always love him , and was about to continue that I can't carry on with him as ill always love him and its hurting me. He surprisingly replied that he loves me back and asked me to marry him. In his eyes he later told me we were together. That was never the case in my eyes we were log distance friends. It was a huge shock I was in disbelief and frightened. I totally disappeared as I just could not go through the pain of any contact with him. I seperated from my husband after 5 years of marriage and him being a cheater. first thing my friend said to me was i saw on Facebook your wedding pictures. i made contact 5 years later to say hello thinking i was in a strong place to have just the friendship. He responded with anger and hurt that he said he was devastated with what id done. Never found anyone like me and never would. We met a few weeks later after intense talking and his eyes were filled with tears to be honest. I practically blew him away. He's always been so insecure about his looks and I am a glamour model so I get a lot of attention and this makes him more insecure but I realised after seeing him that all the old feelings had never gone away . I had made a huge mistake of re contacting him and he now thinks and rightly so that my marriage went bad and I needed someone to fill the space. I told him my feelings and he says he can never forgive me for the past. He still has feelings for me he admitted but will not go as far as tell me how deep those feelings are but judging by our meetings he still loves me but can't face that or tell me that. We have never been intimate before. So now I tell him my feelings 6 months later that I love him always will always did and he replies with he has never gotten married as no one compared to me but he is resigning himself to an arranged marriage through family and we are friends. I asked him to elaborate on how he feels for me 6 months later after intentense friendship and talking every day but he clammed up and I didn't get any reply. It's been 8 days the longest we have ever gone without talking since re establishing our friendship and its killing me but I refuse to chase him and keep texting or calling because the last thing he said is we are friends and the last thing I said was in love you what do u feel about this? And no answer. I said since you see me as a friend only i will start considering a Serious relationship with someone in the future if the right person comes along. then i text no response? Say something i hate silence. And no reaponse from him. so that was the last thing we spoke +im heart broken again over this guy but know i need to get over him however I'm grieving a lost friendship again too. wondering whether he will make contact again. And it's best for me to not contact and leave it now? Me dating other people is something he will not let me say or doesn't want to hear but I wanted to see his response and also say that I can't wait for years hanging around. Pls advise thank you all BR
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