Husband emotional affair

[Lisa M]

I Have been married for 32 years . I will say that it has been hard on me and my husaband 20 years ago I left my husband and meet someone it lasted 2 month top .I come back home and will we worked on our marriage and it was great until 28 years later we built our dream home we allso had another child I thought everthing we wanted. let me back up wail we where building the house I was getting sick did not know there was cancer growing will it was a year before I knew somthing was not right with me I had overian cancer Thank God the doctors got it all . will then I gone back to work I dont know what it was I just felt he was messing around on me will the big mistake was me accusing him of everybody and he called her we go to church with her she used to come to my house to sell avon but then stopped did not think nothing of it see her at church she was giving me some bad looks told my hubby he said may be she is jealous this is way before I knew anything . well when I found out things where not pretty I wanted to know why he hiding a freindship I never hided any of my male freinds everytime they text I foward all msg when I got them or if they call . He said that he was calling her because we argued and whated to know why for a year this **** whent on he would not talk to me say things like somethings missing or one of his male friends whent to asia and he told him theres pussy all over there way say stuff like that to your wife and telling me that if I ever go talking that there going to think I crazy thing that did not sound like the man I married at all .mind you I was bitchy but I tell you I worked full time keeped my house clean and a good mom and did anything he liked in the bedroom . And even now they both said they did nothing wrong it hurts to because I thought will of her and would not done that to her. Sorry for grammer and spelling hope everyone can get the jest of this I just need some feed back to not think Iam not crazy. thanks

[BetrayedH]

How involved were they? You mention an EA but otherwise just say they were friends.

[Lisa M]

Well I really do not know just his word after I found out and all the lies lined up It hurt I think I thougt I knew him he said they where just friends all he said he did was bitch about me to her and I guess any wife would just take his word for it and to know he was unhappy will at the time I was too but got no confort from him he said he was a good husband they never touched theres more to a relationship besides sex .

[underwater2010]

Have you asked him to get rid of her yet? If not, why not?

[Lisa M]

Will he grew up with her and she went to the same church will I left that church and he keep going for 4 months and the church said iam making a big dell out of nothiing because all the women said after my hestorcetamy iam homonal so its all in my head he loves me . Iam hurt because of the things he said to me be before I found out like for a year he said somethings missing and about if I ever go talking they are going to think Iam crazy and all he did to keep it a secerct and hiden from me I did not do that with my male freinds. he said he could not tell me because of me being jealous .he was very stand off with me I just went on my gut I know cant trust my own self any more . oh she just lives 3 miles from my home yes he did say he has NC with her he makes me feel that he had to lie to me that hurts after all the years we have been together i feel everything we built together is a lie. Iam sorry for the spelling and grammer .