ORuss17 Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 Hi, I've got a bit of a story to tell you of me and this girl I was seeing for around 3 months. So we met and hit off instantly, long chats, phone calls and then meeting, we clicked straight away both had the same sense of humour and both made each other happy. We used to meet each other basically everyday and done a lot of things together. However one night on my birthday celebrations I was extremely drunk and can't even remember the night, which I made the biggest mistake of my life, I pushed her aggressively and said I hated her, why? I don't know I'm an idiot, because this girl was the first girl I've ever loved and she loved me too or so she said. We have fallen out since and that was three weeks ago on Sunday. Ill breakdown how each week went. The first week was me basically apologising etc and saying how much of a mistake I had made, I even sent her flowers and went to her house personally to apologise but she told me to go away, in that week she said i she knew I wasn't like that but then said she wanted to leave it, then she said she "don't know" skip forward to that Saturday and I saw her out, she didn't want to speak to me at first but at the end of the night we spoke and she was basically having a go at me because of what I'd done. We got the same taxi back with a few people and agreed to talk in the morning, we never did although I had sent her a message and she had seen it. The Monday following I sent her a message saying she was selfish, out of order etc for the fact that I'd tried so hard to make it up to her and she wasn't having any of it, however I done this to get a reaction and she gave me one as She then replied saying I thought after time we could of sorted things, she then said she thought I was different but now I wasn't and it ended up with her blocking me on whatsapp. I then sent her a text explaining why I sent that message to get a reaction and said I will give her time. So the Friday just gone I thought I would show her how much I really cared and decided to buy her tickets to go Madrid, I dropped those into her work with a card. She then messaged me saying she couldn't believe what I had done, but still was not giving in, she started sending me lengthy essays about her ex being violent cause he beat her up and cheated, and it resulted in us having an argument, she then rang me saying the only reason we fell out was cause of the push. Saturday I saw her out but didn't speak to her, but her best friend came up to me and said "she really likes me but she needs time" on the Sunday I asked if I can get my jumper back and she said she would bring it in to college on the Monday, she didnt so I messaged her yesterday and she said ill get it on the Wednesday, we then had another argument which was basically her saying "I'm horrible" "what lad pushes a girl" "I'm controlling" and that she seems to think I say to every girl I love them even though I've only ever met one girl before, which brings me to my next point, she said to me past night that I said to this other girl I love her (which I hadn't) I simply liked her that's all. She then she was going to block me on facebook but didn't. I then decided to message this girl who I was meeting before and she basically said she had never said that and every time the girl I'm seeing now sees her she comes up to her telling her stuff about me and her. I've print screened the bit where she that shes never said i loved her and I'm planning on sending it to the girl who I'm seeing. A little side story however, the girl I'm seeing has a horrible best friend who I know has turned her against me, she goes out with this best mate every night in her car and funnily enough i used to be friends with her and when I stopped meeting the first girl ages ago me and the best mate had a chat about it all, hence the reason why the girl I'm seeing now seems to think that I loved her because her best mate is stirring ****. So in a nutshell: - we fell out because of the push - I've tried so hard to make it up and show her I'm nothing like her ex - Her best mate is turning her against me even though she says stuff like "she likes you but give her time" - the girl I'm seeing seems to think I say to every girl i love them and that I'm violent and horrible. - The previous girl i did buy flowers because thats me im someone who will do anything for someone who means something to me, so thats where the girl im seeing now seems to think i do it to every girl. At this moment in time shes angry with me and seems like she dont want anything to do with me, but surly if she said shes loves me and wanted to be in a relationship she can forgive me for all this? Ive never been so happy when i was with her shes perfect to me, everything about her i love, and what i did i hate myself for, i dont know why i did it! I just wish she saw how much i actually miss her, love her and want to put things right. Im the most unviolent person you will ever meet, ive never had a fight in my life and i would never hit a girl becuase ive seen it first hand with my mum and dad, but she dont realise this even though ive told her. Theres one part of me saying that i can turn this around and that eventually things will be ok cause we both love each other and i made her happy when i was with her. But then i the other side telling me, its over, i ****ed it up, ive pushed her away and that she hates me. I just want her back because without her im lost sounds soppy but this is the first girl ive ever fallen in love with and for a stupid mistake like what ive done to lose her kills me. Shes attractive, popular, funny there's nothing else i could ask for! But i feel as though there's nothing else i can do or say to win her back What do you think? Honest opinions please Thank you very much for reading this and to everyone that replys it means alot! Thank you!
na49 Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 You don't buy them back with gifts and flowers. If she wants time away from you, give her time away from you dammit! If she wants to be with you, she'll let you know.
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