therhythm Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 The owner of the gym I work for is an amazing looking woman and she is really fun too, we have been toying with the idea of getting out on a date one of these days without never getting to fix it. I do like her, she is sexy and smart and I can feel the attraction we have for each other but I am afraid that a bad step in the wrong direction it may end up with me without a job... What would you guys do in a similar situation?
mortensorchid Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 Never. If something bad goes down then you have to look at that person all the time and never have any space. 1
candie13 Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 bad idea. my rule is to never date someone from my company - and I was working for one with over 600 people. Like... a boss? Nope!!! I see the attraction, but it's big time bad news. Stay away, plenty of pretty women out there. 1
Author therhythm Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 Yes, that is exactly my dilemma, for one side I think that we both are adults and are supposed to be able to deal with our attraction what ever the circumstances are around us... but for other side She is my boss!!. I just got out of a relationship so I don't think another relationship at this moment would be wise but hell if I would not like to casually date my boss, she can be crazy and fun and sexy ... She is a divorcee without children and has the most amazing body you can think in a woman, but is that enough to take such a risk... pfff I don't know!
candie13 Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 I imagine that things can get really really hot... but is this worth your job? that's the bigger question. If you're fine with potentially no job in a month or two, you can give it a try. It doesn't mean that it will automatically turn sour.... but that's what's at stake. Most love relationship end, and a great majority of those don't end nicely... just sayin'...
Author therhythm Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 I imagine that things can get really really hot... but is this worth your job? that's the bigger question. If you're fine with potentially no job in a month or two, you can give it a try. It doesn't mean that it will automatically turn sour.... but that's what's at stake. Most love relationship end, and a great majority of those don't end nicely... just sayin'... Yeah, thanks for the input! I will give it a bit more of a thought and I will see what I do. It seems I am unable to make a decision about this right now. A friend of mine just told me that I should openly speak about my concerns with my boss and see what she thinks about it. I don't know about that, I don't want her to look at me as weak... I have some money saved and I could live a couple of months without job easy but I love the job and I am saving to open one day my own gym...
apple OR orange Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 The fact you need to ask this, means you already know the answer. The problem you have is keeping work at work and outside, outside, if you can do that then great. however people are never fair so osmeone will use something in work they shouldnt do (ooo, i'm sorry, we dont need you hear anymore), after you forgot to do the shopping...
Shepp Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 I would prob say I wouldn't but then having said that if I worked for Cheryl cole, then mother may I It comes down to how much you like her mate? Enough to put your job on the line?
aisuru Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 Nooooooo.... I work in HR professionally and have seen people lose their jobs over this. Not necessarily because they dated (though I've seen that).. but because the fallout is ugly.. I know statistically this is how the great majority of people find their future spouses.... More so than any other avenue actually. I just have seen the dark side of this one too many times. So no. Bad, bad, bad idea. Right now it's a case of the forbidden/bad idea. Give it some serious thought before you proceed.
Tinie Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 I would maybe talk to her about your concerns. I personally wouldn't go down this road. The risk would be too great. A relationship is great but it's not worth losing your job over.
Author therhythm Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 I've been thinking about this situation the last night and I really feel attracted by this woman and while I agree that it will put my job in danger I think I will take the risk, you can't live the life without taking any risk if you want to get the best of it! I lived always my life taking risks and I think I will not stop right now with it. So wish me luck guys! 2
Emilia Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 What would you guys do in a similar situation? I'd never date a superior, never have done. Many years ago had a fling with a colleague and I regreted it. Unless I was leaving the company anyway, I wouldn't consider it.
Emilia Posted May 22, 2013 Posted May 22, 2013 I've been thinking about this situation the last night and I really feel attracted by this woman and while I agree that it will put my job in danger I think I will take the risk, you can't live the life without taking any risk if you want to get the best of it! I lived always my life taking risks and I think I will not stop right now with it. So wish me luck guys! Ok as long as you know what you are risking
Author therhythm Posted May 22, 2013 Author Posted May 22, 2013 Ok as long as you know what you are risking Yep, I guess I like my boss more that I like my job 1
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