what have i done

[wiz88]

I have been in a livein relationship with a manin hisearly twentys for a little over 2 years. But I must admitt it has been up and down with his insecuritys and jealous ways regarding my ex who lives 1500 milesfrom where we do.

 

We have split numerous times but end up getting back together where everything is great for awhileand then thelittlest thing will turn into a huge fight and him threatening to leave or he does. I have stopped trying to make him stay so then he says I don't love him. Well 4 weeks ago we got into it again and he contacted his father who lives 2 hours away to come get him.

 

We spent the night together and he was telling me he was so sorry for what he said and that it wasn't over he was just going up there to work. Well he called a hour later and beings I was still upset I told him not to come back and where did he want me to take all his clothes and belongings. WellI tried calling him a weekafterand hisdad said he wasn't home. Then he called restricted a week ago today and we talked for about a hour and he kept asking if I was talking to any guys amd if I was going on with my life I said no and just avoided getting into a conversation about our problems I was just trying to listen to all that he's been doing since he started working.

 

He then got upset with me for nothing really just jealousy and said he regrets calling me and hung up. I tried calling Saturday only to be told he wasn't around. I really love him a lot but I can not handle the fighting and jealousy and his threats to leave makes me feel lilea I am a option. But I'm out of town to for 3 days and I think I made a big mistake today I was stressing in this motel and sent him a message in a bottle to his job that will bedelivered tomorrow. Help!!

 

Did I make things worse and any advice would really be appreciated

Edited May 22, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[crazy1234]

hi wiz88,i read the whole thing and was wondering what to say.So i came up with this one opinion that i have experienced.I was a jealous girl too and very insecured about myself all the time and about my ex too.I know its not right and is irritating BUT its all cause he probably loves u alot and the thought of u being with someone else creeps him out.I was jealous only cause i know how madly I loved him and mind you it was love not obsession.So try not doing things that make him jealous,understand that he does that only cause he loves you alot and appreciate it.Oh, and the bottle thing was a little too over the line but its okay even if its not.Try reaching him before the bottle reaches his office!

[wiz88]

Thank you so much for your advice. But he has not called in over a week and he hung up on me the last time we talked. And he said he would come home every other weekend but its been a month and no home visit. I'm really worn out by all of this. I tell him I don't like it when he don't call. But yet he still don't. Is he doing this on purpose? ?? I guess I just want a straight answer from him I refuse to stay in a game playing relationship or one where I'm a option. Please give me some direction and I called the delivery company but it was already delivered. He works in the field but I'm sure they let him know.

[KatZee]

This is a highly dysfunctional and toxic relationship for both of you. I can't imagine either of you are happy. I would advise staying away and going nc. You deserve more from a relationship than being constantly dumped or dealing with his insecurity and jealousy. I get that you love him but love is not enough to keep things going.

[crazy1234]

Thank you so much for your advice. But he has not called in over a week and he hung up on me the last time we talked. And he said he would come home every other weekend but its been a month and no home visit. I'm really worn out by all of this. I tell him I don't like it when he don't call. But yet he still don't. Is he doing this on purpose? ?? I guess I just want a straight answer from him I refuse to stay in a game playing relationship or one where I'm a option. Please give me some direction and I called the delivery company but it was already delivered. He works in the field but I'm sure they let him know.

Then let it be wiz88.If he can stay like that without giving you proper answers and just bailing off on you making you all miserable..than let it be.Dont u see the answers he's giving u already?he hasnt showed up for an entire month..30 days..u'r better and smarter than that to figure out what he wants.