yankeefan4255 Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 I asked out my girlfriend on the first day of school. School is about 8 hours away for me and 1.5 for her. I just finished up my sophomore year, so it's almost been 2 years. I loved her, and I wanted to marry her. For a while I was thinking that I loved her more than she did. I had a sinking nervous feeling for months. A few months ago, I noticed that she was texting this guy. So one morning I looked into her phone and sure enough. It looked a little like flirting to me (she was really bad). I told her how I felt...she said firmly that it's nothing and they're just friends. It went on for a little while, and I peeked at her phone a few more times over like a month span. She got mad and said I didn't trust her. So now, last night I wanted to open up...she called me. We're back on summer break, I'm in Boston, her in rochester. I wanted to open up with her, she didn't. So i finally got it out of her...that she wanted a break. To be able to "find herself and see who she is". We agreed...after a long battle of crying and some laughs and whatnot. I felt like this could solve the problems I've been having and could make her come back with more love and passion. But now I'm reading from other forums that this is just a tell-tale sign that she has another guy and really is just lying to me when she says "you're my first love and my bestfriend, and you took my v-card, I'll always care about you" I don't know what to do. I'm paranoid, freaking out, and I'm afraid.
BustedUpInside Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 I am a little confused about what you're wanting help with. She told you that she wants a break, and you are wondering if this is permanent or if it is just so that she can take some time and figure out if she really loves you as much as she has said in the past. The truth is that it doesn't really matter whether it is a break to think or whether it is a break to date someone else. The result is still the same. You are no longer involved in a relationship. She is allowed to date other people or not. Your concern shouldn't be whether she wants to be with you, but rather if you actually want to be with her. Try being single for awhile. See if it is a better fit for you. Don't talk to her or text her. Just work on yourself for awhile. If she wants you back she will let you know and then you can decide if you want to be with her or not. Don't let her have power over your future and feelings. Take control for yourself and figure out what YOU want. You deserve to be happy and feel secure in a relationship and that is not going to happen with your ex for awhile.
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