Leigh 87 Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 (edited) I had a serious epiphany. I am never wrong when I have a true gut feeling over a situation. I now realise what will happen with my ex and I. I know we are not meant to be together now, or in the NEAR future. We both had too many issues. However: I KNOW the love was THERE, it had the potential to be a crazy love that lasts a life time. Problem is, we could not fully realise it. We got together at the wrong time. We both have a long way to go in our own development. I know for a fact: NC and moving on with other people now is key. Fact: if we do not find our life partner within the next year or two, I know we will get together again. It all makes sense now. I have never been wrong when my intuition and gut are both screaming at me. And yes my gut was screaming at me that we WOULD NOT last this time. I always knew. Trouble is, we both had the strongest type of love brewing inside of us, which causes two people to become extremely close, EVEN if it is not meant to be for now: we always wanted to be together (and not for lack of friends and other things to do that we once enjoyed single) When your that in love, yet it is just not "right" for you to be together at that stage in life, you are blinded and too attached to part ways. ..................................... Do not slam me and tell me shyte like " he just didn't love you enough or have the capacity to ever love you in the deepest way, look at how he treated you" I believe in what I believe. My gut has never let me down. The beauty is: I AM just as excited about finding the right man, even if it IS NOT ANDREW. I just KNOW that my ex and I have something special that will be realized, if we do not find our life partner first. That is all. I have let go of a lot of... pain. I feel very confident in NC. I know it IS for the best. Has anyone else felt the way I do? Has anyone ever felt that, under the right circumstances: you could experience the deepest kind of love and spend your life with a person (who you could not fully realise your love with) Just seeing if anyone else has gone through this. And I do not want people assuming this is me being delusional about having false hope. That is SO far from what I am actually feeling. I actually feel immense relief: I know we will probably find our life partner before we even get he chance to re connect. I am happy I have finally figured out what our love truly meant, was all I mean. I want to hear about other people who clearly saw their relationship for what it was, before they moved on? I also want to hear the bad epiphanies people have come up with... Maybe you realised they never loved you and used you for sex and money? I am sure there are all sorts of crazy stories, of how you did not understand your relationship for what it was, until it had ended. Edited May 21, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Merge
Author Leigh 87 Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 Have you ever heard of the confirmation bias? ? Dude. All I am saying is that, if we do not find our life partner in the next year or so, that I can tell we will get together again. Because I believe we had the right level of love, but were together at the wrong time for it to flourish. Seems pretty simple to me; to know that you will get together again, but only if you do not find the one first, within a set time frame.
DannyMason Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 Relax. I was ribbing you for your insistence that you "always knew" and your "gut instinct is always right". See especially your bolded remarks. That's just the confirmation bias. People tend to selectively remember things that confirm their beliefs.
Author Leigh 87 Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 Relax. I was ribbing you for your insistence that you "always knew" and your "gut instinct is always right". See especially your bolded remarks. That's just the confirmation bias. People tend to selectively remember things that confirm their beliefs. I see what you mean. I see this outcome based on the good and the bad though. I am not just thinking that it was all a great time with us - there were a lot of issues. I just feel that the depth of love we had is enough to remain, and be activated again if we ever crossed paths.
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