LoopyLou Posted September 30, 2004 Posted September 30, 2004 Hi, I started uni last year and have a boyfriend who started uni the year before me. He made friends with a lad who was in his year and doing the same subject. Anyway when i started uni the following year i also started talking to this lad. At first i didnt really think much of him then as time went on i started to like him more and more. He does some things which make me think he feels the same way but i dont know if its just me wishful thinking. I will list the things he does: He always stares at my chest, but this is probably just because he is a lad (no offence!!) Whenever we are walking somewhere he always talks to me. And walks really close. Also whenever there are a group of us and we are all talking and then people leave and its just me and him he never talks to me or seems very reluctant to. He does things to make me laugh like whenever a boyband come on the radio singing a really cheesy love song he always mimicks it to make me laugh. The other day i was sorting something out and was bent down on my knees facing him and he was tucking his shirt in his pants because he was cold, and he said that it looked like i was going to perfom a certain act on him and i laughed and said yes it does and he then said 'you can if you want' I think he was joking but im not sure. The other day i was sat down and he was looking round the room at other people and then he looked at me but when i made eye contact with him he turned his gaze to something else quickly. Whenever we are talking he always looks me in the eyes and is smiling. But the funny thing is whenever we are in our halls thats me, my boyfriend and him he never comes to my room to speak to me. He doesnt really remeber that much about me but he remebers some things. Like im in my second year now and i got a 1st in my first year and whenever we are talking about uni work he always says 'you got a 1st last year didnt you' I was in his room last night in our halls of residence and he was putting posters up he kept saying where do you think i should put this one and asking my advice. We started watching a film on his laptop and i was sat next to him on a deskchair and out the corner of my eye i could see that he kept looking at me out of the corner of his eyes. I cant work him out. Please help as im in a real dilemma. Thanks
bluechocolate Posted September 30, 2004 Posted September 30, 2004 You have a boyfriend - what's the problem? If you really want to know dump your boyfriend & ask the other guy out.
Author LoopyLou Posted September 30, 2004 Author Posted September 30, 2004 hi, I know i have a boyfriend and i am strongly considering finishing with him , but i want to know if this lad likes me thats what im asking.
bluechocolate Posted September 30, 2004 Posted September 30, 2004 but i want to know if this lad likes me thats what im asking. Only he knows. Sounds to me like maybe you want a little insurance before you dump your boyfriend?
Author LoopyLou Posted September 30, 2004 Author Posted September 30, 2004 i dont want insurance before i dump my boyfriend, i just want to know what other people think, and if you are just going to keep posting comments like that all the time then your wasting my time and yours. The reason i am asking about his behaviour is because most people act in the same way when they have feelings for someone and i am simply enquiring into whether or not the way this lad is acting is in common with such behaviour. I am sorry if i have offended you with the content of my post but i would rather you kept your remarks to yourself and left this thread for those who can genuienly help me. Thank you
bluechocolate Posted September 30, 2004 Posted September 30, 2004 Oh dear. I'm not at all offended. You say that you have a boyfriend but want to know if this other guy likes you, so my gut reaction is "what's up with that?". If you're interested in someone else then the best thing for you to do is to stop seeing your boyfriend & find out for yourself. If you're not interested in him then I assume you wouldn't be posting. As to your question - it sounds like he MIGHT like you. But I don't know him & probably no one else on this site knows him either. Maybe he's just a very friendly, flirty kinda guy. They do exist. So maybe he's like that with all his female friends. Maybe he's gay. Maybe he's just a horny young dude who'll try it on with any passing chick in university. They exist too. You see what I'm getting at? The only person who REALLY knows if he likes you is HIM. But like I said, it sounds like he MIGHT like you - that's about as genuine as I can be. You're welcome.
Author LoopyLou Posted September 30, 2004 Author Posted September 30, 2004 hi, I know what you are saying about no one knowing him and how i can only find out if i ask if and believe you me i am trying to muster the courage to ask!! But im am not a very confident person and in my heart i have this feeling that he does like me but i dont want to ask him and for him to say no. The thing is he isnt very confident either and he doesnt really flirt on a regular basis he is really shy around people. I know he isnt gay, well i think i know that but like you say you never know. But whenever i am in his company i feel that there is a tension so to speak between us, not a bad tension but a feeling and my stomach feels weird, whenever we talk we always look into each others eyes and i have this feeling inside me. I really want to tell him and have been thinking of finishing with my boyfriend because it isnt fair on him. He doesnt know and i dont want him to, but i dont think i can have proper feelings for him when i have such feelings for this other lad. I am so desperate to find out but just havent got the courage. I am hoping that he will come to me or something will happen but he probably wont as he is too shy and becuase of my boyfriend so maybe you are right and i am only dumping my boyfriend in the hope he will like me but i would have dumped my boyfriend anyway because i just dont think i love him anymore and this situation has only added to it. As i cannot like to people at the same time. Thanks for your help
Scangie Posted September 30, 2004 Posted September 30, 2004 It sounds like he might like you, but if he has any character at all, he's not going to be open about it while you are still with your boyfriend. I'm sorry, but I really don't understand why you are hoping he comes on to you now -- all that would mean is that he doesn't respect relationships, and if he was willing to cheat with you, he'll be willing to cheat on you. If you are thinking this seriously about another guy, why are still with your boyfriend? You could both get on with other things if you ended that relationship. If you are in college, you are old enough to handle this maturely.
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