younglove17 Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 so some weird stuff has happened since my last time on here... my ex broke up with me a month ago (we dated for 5 months) and supposedly was dating this girl a week later. She was his friend so i thought it wasn't a rebound and he genuinely liked her and left me for her so naturally i was heartbroken. He also glared at me in the hallways even though I offered to be friends... But i've been realizing recently that i don't have to pretend that i dont care anymore... i actually dont most of the time. i dont want him back like i did before, he broke my heart far too badly. and i've even gone on a date (oh and we are in high school just to be clear) but recently some things have come up... -his teammates say that he IS in a relationship with that girl still but... -she says that she does NOT like anyone -my friend talked to his friend who said my ex is "going through a rough time" and he wears the same outfit almost everyday (has been for 3 weeks), unlike when we were together. also that he and that girl were going to date but "things didn't work out/something went wrong." I am just wondering, for the sake of any "closure," what is going on? I think it was just that she turned him down and he truly does not care anymore, but then i don't want to get my hopes up that he still cares. He seemed head over heels for me up until a day before we broke up too... my friends are telling me he definitely still cares about me, but i'm very confused.
OwlSoul Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 I personally do not think there is anything to hope about if either you or your ex started dating someone even casually.
TaraMaiden Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 Hate to be blunt - but you shouldn't really give a damn. This is his life now, and you're leading yours. If he wants to make an approach, that's up to him - but sincerely, I would let it be known that you're past him, you've moved on and you have no intention of taking a retrograde step. He's responsible for his own choices. If he's messing up his life, it's not up to you to do anything about it, whether it's merely reaching out, or running to the rescue. leave it be. look forward, not backwards. These days will pass, and you'll soon move on.
Author younglove17 Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 good point - i guess the only thing i did hope for is some sort of emotion from him to show i wasn't just some girl he could replace.
Author younglove17 Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 you're absolutely right. I guess because i do still care for him in a sense, even if it's just for the sake of the memories we had, it's completely up to him how he deals with things, and if i'm already moving on, who cares? Thanks a ton
BustedUpInside Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 You don't need him to tell you that you are the sort of girl who is not easily replaced. YOU tell yourself who you are. It doesn't matter what he thinks about you because all that matters is that you feel better. It really seems like you are doing much better and that is all because of the hard work and good things you have been doing for yourself. You have made yourself into the kind of person that recovered from a bad breakup without a ton of emotional baggage and are more attractive and level headed than your ex could ever be. Even though you are in high school, this post and your others have really shown a marked maturity that I wish I had at your age. That is really an amazing characteristic to have and that right there makes you the kind of girl that no boy will ever be able to replace. You are one of a kind! 2
Author younglove17 Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 Aww thank you so much!! That really made my day and further helped me feel as though I'm going about things in the right way, even though the whole situation is very confusing. What a confidence boost! 1
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