venuss Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 (edited) It's been 2 months 3 days since we had any interaction. He has disappeared from the face of earth!!!! I want to contact him real bad. But we did not break up on good terms, I accused him (no regrets) then he to offended me, I am not sure if I sent any text/email he will reply and if he did not then I won't like it. I want to test waters, we have no common friends. I really need to get back with him, it's been so long Any suggestion will be much appreciated. Thanks. Edited May 20, 2013 by venuss
aisuru Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 You can't make somebody be with you. You know that right? Who was the dumper? If he was, you're gonna have to wait for him to decide to contact you.
Lostint Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 You could try apologizing and let him know you want to clear the air between you.
robinsparkles Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 If you really feel you have behaved badly, you can apologize and see what kind of contact that gets you. I am in the same situation, where I wish (sort of ) I handled the break up differently in order to leave the door open for another try once he deals with his issues. But don't wait around for it, because you broke up for a reason and extensive internet research and friend-polling have indicated to me that guys who come back are extremely rare. Personal experience has also taught me the damage done to trust by the break up isn't so easily fixed once you're back together. Too, you have to be willing to risk the rejection (him not answering). If you don't want to risk it, ask yourself if your feelings are really strong enough?
Author venuss Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 You can't make somebody be with you. You know that right? Who was the dumper? If he was, you're gonna have to wait for him to decide to contact you. I was dumper but his actions left me no choice. I kind of insulted him.
aisuru Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 I was dumper but his actions left me no choice. I kind of insulted him. So in his mind, you probably did him a favor and he's cut you out to heal himself and move on from the relationship. This is why you do not use breaking up as a manipulation tool or in the heat of the moment. When you say you want to break up, you better mean it.
Author venuss Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 So in his mind, you probably did him a favor and he's cut you out to heal himself and move on from the relationship. This is why you do not use breaking up as a manipulation tool or in the heat of the moment. When you say you want to break up, you better mean it. Well said!! Learned the lesson but now what? Forget about him!?
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