DavidSoBased Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 A clean break? I don't know. Does glass break straight down the middle? Think about it. No such thing as a "clean" break.
na49 Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 I'm sure it can if both people think it's for the best. but most of the time, one person is ending the relationship and one person is having it ended for them. The person who has it ended for them has no control over anything, and is usually angry, depressed, or both about it.
Author thedills05 Posted May 31, 2013 Author Posted May 31, 2013 Hmmmm, well whatever it is I'm staying well clear of twitter so will no longer be privy to her childish ways!
flitzanu Posted May 31, 2013 Posted May 31, 2013 maybe she is taking her new boyfriend to those two festivals?
Author thedills05 Posted June 2, 2013 Author Posted June 2, 2013 Sooooo, today she text me. THREE TIMES. I didn't reply and am not at all bothered. First text was asking if I was sad and to say she's still thinking of me lots. Second said something about how it was a shame I was ignoring her and that she hoped I was ok (she sent this twice). The final text said "I'm up for a chat if u change ur mind x". Any thoughts?
TaraMaiden Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 (edited) Yes. Don't u change yr mind - ! Next time she texts, return with this: Text Blocker activated. Your message was not delivered. Further attempts will result in this service being charged to your account. Edited June 2, 2013 by TaraMaiden 1
Author thedills05 Posted June 2, 2013 Author Posted June 2, 2013 Will do! Again though, why?! She cheated on and dumped me.
Matmana Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 I think it is very hard to ever find a clean breakup. There are so many emotions going on in a relationship that it is hard to ever end things on a good note. Sometimes, people will lie and manipulate to get a reaction out of you. I think the best thing to do is just be mature about it and know you handled things the right way. If your partner is acting immature, then maybe it is best the relationship is over. 1
flitzanu Posted June 2, 2013 Posted June 2, 2013 Will do! Again though, why?! She cheated on and dumped me. mainly because she knows she did something bad to you. she wants you to forgive her and be her friend so she can stop feeling guilty.
Inviv_girl Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 You have to cut her out of your life to make a clean break. This girl is totally a drama queen! If she says she sees no future with you, well you better run off far-far away from her and never return!! seriously, this woman doesnt even deserve your attention! ignore all her text and close all communication with her because you are certainly not going anywhere with her. She would just end up using you for her needs and you left broken heart of you continue with her.
Leigh 87 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 She cheated on you and started seeing another guy. Obviously having sex with him regularly. She then feels upset that you hooked up, and had the decency to wait until you were single to do so. That is all you need to know.
Author thedills05 Posted June 3, 2013 Author Posted June 3, 2013 Yep, all true. I texted this morning to say "you're with someone else, fair enough. There is no need to keep contacting me". 1
Leigh 87 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Seriously, some people are just ridiculous. I mean really? She breaks your heart, she does not clearly want you back, so god forbid you try to move on and hook up with new people:lmao: I mean, if I was capable of being intimate and dating another man, it would be because I was INTO that new man enough, and OVER my ex enough, to not be texting my ex that I missed him.... I do not see the use of dating, unless you are serious about the person. How can she be serious about this new dude if she is playing around with you still? It is just a really sad way to live.... If I am into a guy then he is the only man I am interested in. There would be no room for other men, even exes I once loved. I feel sorry for the new dude. Poor guy. He could really be falling for her, and she is out texting her ex behind his back. Lovely. She sounds charming:sick: She sounds too lonely and unable to be alone that she needs guys in her life in order for her to feel at her "best"
Author thedills05 Posted June 3, 2013 Author Posted June 3, 2013 Don't feel sorry for the new guy, he was a 'friend' and went into it with his eyes wide open!!
Author thedills05 Posted June 8, 2013 Author Posted June 8, 2013 Thought I'd update you guys. Seems like 'new guy' has now left the ex. I always thought this would happen, not this soon though! So pleased she's now got what was coming to her :-)! 1
TaraMaiden Posted June 8, 2013 Posted June 8, 2013 Thought I'd update you guys. Seems like 'new guy' has now left the ex. I always thought this would happen, not this soon though! So pleased she's now got what was coming to her :-)! You do know she will in all probability contact you now....? Just to 'touch base, see how you are', that kinda crap....? 2
Author thedills05 Posted June 9, 2013 Author Posted June 9, 2013 Haha, I'm more than prepared for that.. She has some important exams in 2 weeks time which she'll no doubt be concentrating on, come summer and 'home time' I'm positive she will be in touch. After all that she's put me through though, I'm simply not interested!
Author thedills05 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 I don't know why I did it, must've been autopilot- I rang her today. We chatted for nearly an hr. Not about us or anything heavy, just a chat. I don't feel upset or regret doing it. I am thinking it was probs a bad idea though?!
Author thedills05 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 :-/ I know it's bad! Is it just best to see this as a blip and go back to NC?! I am a muppet...! I wasn't even contacting for anything in particular, just think curiosity got the better of me...!
TaraMaiden Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 Are you over her? Do you think you're sufficiently 'moved on' to cope with further interaction? Would more discussion with her begin to revive feelings Do you think it would actually re-ignite the spark of desire and wishful thinking again?? Or are you happy to be friend-zoned and be indifferent, secure and safe in the knowledge that this is over, and you're ok? If the former - definitely NC. If the latter, then you judge it......
aisuru Posted June 10, 2013 Posted June 10, 2013 I don't know why I did it, must've been autopilot- I rang her today. We chatted for nearly an hr. Not about us or anything heavy, just a chat. I don't feel upset or regret doing it. I am thinking it was probs a bad idea though?! Wow, just helped yourself to the dessert buffet, didntcha?! :p Good luck in the coming days and weeks. Tara has your back. P.S. We've all done this in previous life experiences. Why do you think we preach against it now?
Author thedills05 Posted June 10, 2013 Author Posted June 10, 2013 I think no contact is the best. I've been doing an awesome job of keeping myself almost constantly busy. At the end of the day thkugh it's only 6 weeks since our 4 year relationship came to an abrupt end. Seemed odd talking earlier. She did say she can't stop checking my twitter feed, to the point of obsession and really misses me, yet still maintains she sees no future whatsoever. Very strange. 1
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