Ed the 3rd Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Okay okay this isn't about setting up profiles or pictures or whatever its more about a girl I've been talking with on a OLD site. She is pretty and seems cool so I do want to meet her but I'm not sure how I should go about it without being too forwar Should I ask for her facebook or number first? I'm just not sure. Its so rare that I get to met a girl like her as most girls on online dating sites won't give you the time of day if you aren't brad pitt. We've only been talking for a couple of days.
nerd Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I have a very low response rate to first messages. So if the girl responds, I'll send one more, and if I get the second response and I'm still interested, I'll then say that I don't like extended email conversations, let's do drinks or something, here's my number. I'd say that about half the time I get to that second response I end up setting something up, the other half she either makes an excuse not to or disappears. I have a small sample size, and fortunately am not doing OLD anymore, so I'm not sure if waiting a couple more messages would make the date more likely. Or if it would just give them more opportunities to stop responding. *shrug*
Author Ed the 3rd Posted May 23, 2013 Author Posted May 23, 2013 So I may or may not have a date in a week or so. Better then a no i guess OLD still creep me out to no end. Its like you're a car on auto trader and unless you are absolutely perfect there's not point because no ones going to show any interest. Just wanna ask for her number and get off the damn thing haha.
MidwestUSA Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 So I may or may not have a date in a week or so. Better then a no i guess OLD still creep me out to no end. Its like you're a car on auto trader and unless you are absolutely perfect there's not point because no ones going to show any interest. Just wanna ask for her number and get off the damn thing haha. Well, do it. Facebook friending someone before meeting them? Really? Does this happen? Like I'd want someone meeting my whole Facebook family, seeing my dogs and cats, knowing who I went to kindergarten with. THAT'S creepy.
Jamie2014 Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 Just ask her for number, if she is interested in you too, she will give. However, even if she doesn't give because both of you are still "strangers", she will chat with you.
FitChick Posted May 23, 2013 Posted May 23, 2013 I like to talk to someone on the phone before meeting to get a better sense of them. Too often someone can be funny and clever in writing but are slow witted and dull in person. Tell her you would love to hear the sound of her voice and give her your number saying, "If you don't feel comfortable giving me your number, here is mine. Let's set up a time for a call." 1
Author Ed the 3rd Posted May 23, 2013 Author Posted May 23, 2013 I would but I do fear a phone call wouldn't really be a fair way to judge me since me and phones don't get on too well. I will ask to exchange numbers soon just a little put off by the fact sometimes we'll talk for a while but then she ignores a message. I'm not a fan of sending double messages. I'm just assuming she's busy because why would you say yes then not talk that much? OLD is too silly for me.
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