jkepler85 Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 My ex and I dated for three years and for two of them she would spend time with me and my daughter (8 now). My daughter is such tenderhearted sweet heart, she loved spending time with my ex. About a month after we broke up, I finally told my daughter. She's really smart though, and she saw through it. She cried and I consoled her of course, but being the little sweetheart that she is, she wished my ex a prayer for her to guide her path and find happiness and told me to give her a hug. This was several months ago now. My exs birthday is the day before mine this past weekend, and my daughter remembered and out of her own piggy bank bought a little hello kitty candy tin for my ex and insisted that I give it to her. Sometimes I wish we could all just love as simply and unconditionally as children do.
Chi townD Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Ouch! That pulls on the heartstrings a little. I would probably suggest that your daughter write her a little note and wrap it up in the tin wishing her a Happy Birthday and drop it in the post for her.
Author jkepler85 Posted May 21, 2013 Author Posted May 21, 2013 That is what I did. Dropped off the tins for her. I think she was out of town, she actually texted me tonight (a few days later) wishing me a belated birthday and hoping that things were going well. I don't know if I really feel like responding to her though. I suppose that's a good thing, my heart is well on the mending process. I read a post on here earlier that kind of resonated with me. I think this relationship started out to be fun/just wanting to have someone and it basically had an expiration date from the get go based on age, maturity, life progress etc, we just didn't throw it out when it had expired and fell a little bit in love in the process. There was nothing I could say or do to have changed that, because that's what that relationship was from the start, not meant to be forever.
TaraMaiden Posted May 21, 2013 Posted May 21, 2013 Children teach us the value of naked honesty. I'm reminded of what it's like on the beach... every family in their own 'space'... invisible boundaries ensuring nobody encroaches or gets too close - yet all these multinational kids, unable to speak each others' languages, are all down there, together, on the shore-front, building castles and playing in the sand - together. Seeing things through the eyes of a child is sometimes a priceless and invaluable lesson. They can experience 'pure' sadness. Pure, because they don't attach baggage to it, and inflate it to include extraneous feelings. They're just 'sad', pure and simple. What a lovely little girl you have.
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