clairehud Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 (edited) I was on a website and posted my topic about guy I was seeing. I was really honest on this site since I was anonymous. After a while i got an IM there, one reasonable and smart guy replied to my love issuse. He was also having the same problem as me with his ex or whatever she is. His advices really helped me to get it throught and look at things in a different way. We figured out how people are *******s and how no one is honest lately and that it is hard to find a decent girl/guy these days. Then this guy started to flirt with me and he said I was so awesome and brave for doing what I did with my last guy. It was some casual sexual romance, I met him on a holliday then after we split I thought I was in love with him, never mind. Pretty slutty story So, this new guy who gave me the advice now knows everything about me and how I acted slutty and so on. I never had a clue I'd actually started to like this new guy, so I was so honest with him, then we started to chat about everyday stuff, hobbies, interests and so on. "Getting to know each other" we also exchanged photos. It was spontaneous and just happened, I never planned to meet someone online. He asked me on a "date" almost instantly after 4 hours of contant chat, I said no, since I don't meet with people I meet online. We really started to talk about everything back and forth about relationships, friendships, other issues, even sex. We just found the same language instantly. At first he was like teasing me that he thinks I am hot, so I guess he got into me in that way and he started the talk about sex, since he read my story on that site, I guess he thought I was really liberal about sex stuff. In a nice way I teased him back with dignity, but I gave him a hint how I am not so adventurous after all. That didn't matter so much to him, he still talked to me everyday almost the 24/7 for 10 days. So I said to him inerectly I was not about those adventurous things just hooking up with someone for fun. He didn't mind and we never thought about in that way anymore. We bonded as "friends". He said I was so fun, funny and nice. We were suposed to meet in those 10 days, I made up my mind. He seemed cute on his photos, actually I found out my friend knows who he is and so on...So I knew he was honest and he wasn't lying about anything. Isn't world so small? He asked me out to do some activity in nature, but since I was too busy and he was that whole week, we just couldn't meet. I was planning some wedding and so on! Never mind. 10 days later he had an accident so he stayed for a 2,3 weeks at home/hospital. I was wondering why he just stopped initiating contact so I waited for 2,3 days and texted him. He said he was in a hospital. So i gave him a brake and space, I asked him how is he recoverying in those next 2,3 weeks. I've texted him once a week. I didn't want to be pushy or boring or to bother a poor guy. So I gave him space. He didn't initiate anything in that period, I could of understand it eventhought I've thought he was maybe cutting me off on moments. Suddenly a week or 2 ago he initiated contact and he appeared online! He said he was thinking about me and that he remembered me because he was doing something at his job. So, we texted a few messages, my messages were so confusing, because I was so distracted. But I don't think that could turn him off, I think he got a clue who I was by now. I hope I was not sounding so "stupid and blonde"... So, I waited 3 days and I texted him if he wants to go out with me. I got sick with constant texting and just not being able to meet. The reason why I asked him out was just to let him know that I was into him and insterested. If you know what I want to say. For Christ sake, I was crying to him 3 weeks before about my last guy, then overnight I started to fall for him, it was wierd! But he does know that I am over my last guy, I told him when he asked me couple of times This is why I asked him out, I don't think it was a bad idea! Anyway, he responded immediately and his reaction was something like this:"OMG, f...I am going to visit my buddy in 30 minutes and then we are going to some show! How long are you in town?" I just said like its ok, just enjoy with your best friend! I am here for a week! It doesn't matter I work here every day, i am not so far, it's just that sometimes I stay in my apartment in the town, which is next to his place. So that was it, i asked him out on thursday, he still didn't respond or invited me to go somewhere. I know he spent this weekend probably out of town because he was mentioning that a week ago, so I guess he couldn't go even if he wanted to. He is always out of town on weekends and during week he works alot, but that is not an exuse! What am I suposed to do? Just wait for his invitation now, or something? Do you think he is into me or? As I said we never met in person, but I really like this guy, he seems so easygoing and nice and we can talk about everything, he is also honest. Ok, I am not so naive or something, but I know since my friend "knows" him too that he is the way he is. I don't know is he playing hard to get? When I started to initiate conversations when he was sick and I was worried about him, since then he didn't do anything to initiate it, but we did text couple of times, he seemed interested,I do understand him, he was sick I can't be bitchy over that issues and wine about it. I just don't know what to do and how to act. Do you think he will ask me out? I know its only monday if he wasn't at home on weekend, but still Edited May 20, 2013 by clairehud
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