do you believe in true love?

[lonewalker]

I am not sure about anyone but i just want to share my experience of how someone would really felt when they are truely in love.

 

1) u show your weakness and insecurity to the person but instead of it being a negative thing, he/she will try their best to assure u and make the insecure feelings go away. U just feel so comfortable and safe hugging them.

 

2) u dont feel the display of weakness from your partner a sign of weakness. But rather feel that u just want to be the person to make sure everything is ok for them. U want to protect and be there for them.

 

3) u feel u are always not good enough for them becoz someone they r just perfect for u. The insecurity shows up but they will always assured u gently that u r more perfect than u think u r.

 

4) being together with him/her feels so much at home. U find it is always home when u r with them. U miss them and will never find them annoying even if they r always by ur side. Always brings u a smile when u think abt them.

 

5) no matter how bad the situation is, u will always find it a comfort that both of u are there

And the feeling of loving each other gives both of u so much comfort that u feel nothing cannot be overcome with them side by side with u, working to resolve it.

 

6) sometimes when situation is so bad that u wish u would sacrifice urself for them to solve the problem. But yet u know by doing that, it will probably hurt them too much that u never want to hurt urself becoz u know it will hurt them more if u harm urself.

 

7) u completely trust urself to them and whatever decision they want to make for u for u know they would probably take care of u more than u would ever take care of urself. That is a complete assurance. And u want to take care of them to make sure everything is ok.

 

8) understands each other completely. Knows what on their mind and able to sense some burden or worries. Will be able to help them remove these burdens and worries becoz they know u love them and will be there for them.

 

9) feels that in the end true love does exists and only those people who have experienced it will feel this way becoz it is beyond description. And u understand that life is worth living despite all the nasty things that will happened to everyone someday. Given a choice u would re-lived again experiencing life bitterness for u to feel this kind of love again. Becoz it is worth it.

 

Happy dating people.

Edited May 20, 2013 by lonewalker

[pcplod]

I don't believe in the premise behind the title of your post. It is meaningless, just a vacuous and inane saying that has gathered it's own currency that is worth zilch in any other currency. Unfortunately, as a result, I didn't read the rest of your post.

[TaraMaiden]

I didn't read the post because the poster appears to not be able to type properly.

that u r more perfect than u think u r.

 

...."that you are more perfect than you think you are."

 

See? Easy.

 

Text-speak is both unnecessary and highly irritating.

 

Don't use shore-cuts - you lose respect on the forum.

 

Honestly, you do.

[whirl3daway]

I don't know if I believe in the idea of true love. I think it's possible to truly love someone, but it does require a lot of work and effort. I think if you find yourself willing and able to do what it takes to make your relationship thrive, then you probably truly love the other person.

 

"True Love" sings to me of the idea of soulmates, and "the one", all of which I think is nonsense. There are multiple people in this world that you could date and marry and love... you just have to find the ones that are worth the work.

[LittleTiger]

Yes, I believe in true love, although that is obviously my personal definition of true love, which won't be the same as anyone else's.

 

However, I disagree with most of the points you've made here - see my responses in italics.

 

1) u show your weakness and insecurity to the person but instead of it being a negative thing, he/she will try their best to assure u and make the insecure feelings go away. U just feel so comfortable and safe hugging them.

 

Yes, you show your weaknesses and insecurities to that person but not if it's about the relationship itself. If you have insecurities about the relationship then it's not 'true love'.

 

2) u dont feel the display of weakness from your partner a sign of weakness. But rather feel that u just want to be the person to make sure everything is ok for them. U want to protect and be there for them.

 

Yes, I agree with this one.

 

3) u feel u are always not good enough for them becoz someone they r just perfect for u. The insecurity shows up but they will always assured u gently that u r more perfect than u think u r.

 

I strongly disagree. If you feel that you're not good enough then you are not secure in the relationship. If you constantly need reassurance from your partner that you are 'good enough', that's not healthy - for you or for the relationship.

 

4) being together with him/her feels so much at home. U find it is always home when u r with them. U miss them and will never find them annoying even if they r always by ur side. Always brings u a smile when u think abt them.

 

Yes, being with them feels like 'home' and you miss them when they're not there. However, if you really believe that you will never find them annoying, you're probably living in cloud cuckoo land. Everyone gets annoyed with their partner at times, even when they are not 'always by your side' - I assume you're talking about the honeymoon phase of a relationship? Bad news for you I'm afraid - it doesn't stay that way, even when you love them to bits!

 

5) no matter how bad the situation is, u will always find it a comfort that both of u are there

And the feeling of loving each other gives both of u so much comfort that u feel nothing cannot be overcome with them side by side with u, working to resolve it.

 

Yes, having your partner by your side in life is always a comfort and it's great to have someone to battle through the tough times with. Unfortunately, there are things that can't be overcome in life - although it's nice to think otherwise.

 

6) sometimes when situation is so bad that u wish u would sacrifice urself for them to solve the problem. But yet u know by doing that, it will probably hurt them too much that u never want to hurt urself becoz u know it will hurt them more if u harm urself.

 

Sacrifice yourself? In what way? Absolutely not! 'Taking the wrap' for someone, or harming yourself for their benefit (erm seriously?) is not healthy or beneficial to anyone. If you had said 'stand by them' no matter what - then I might agree with you, although it would depend on what they'd done.

 

7) u completely trust urself to them and whatever decision they want to make for u for u know they would probably take care of u more than u would ever take care of urself. That is a complete assurance. And u want to take care of them to make sure everything is ok.

 

No. This doesn't sound healthy at all. You are in charge of you and, whilst it's lovely to have someone you can trust to be completely on your side, someone who you know wants only the best for you and vice versa, you should be your own guardian and protector. Believing that someone else can take better care of you than you can of yourself is very immature. There is no such thing as a knight in shining armour - sorry but that's a fairy tale.

 

8) understands each other completely. Knows what on their mind and able to sense some burden or worries. Will be able to help them remove these burdens and worries becoz they know u love them and will be there for them.

 

Yes, it's possible to reach a level of intimacy and understanding whereby you can sense when things are not going well. Yes, it's good to there for your partner and help them in whatever way you can. Understand each other completely? I doubt it - human beings are way to complicated and they change all the time. Nice idea but not realistic.

 

9) feels that in the end true love does exists and only those people who have experienced it will feel this way becoz it is beyond description. And u understand that life is worth living despite all the nasty things that will happened to everyone someday. Given a choice u would re-lived again experiencing life bitterness for u to feel this kind of love again. Becoz it is worth it.

 

Yes, love is a beautiful thing and, when life gets tough, it's wonderful to have someone by your side to hold your hand - I'd even agree that 'true love' makes life worth living. However, I suspect from what you've written, that you haven't yet experienced any major traumas in life. I'm not sure that 'true-love' can be a Band-Aid for the nasty times but that's just my opinion.

[na49]

I don't. and it's not because I'm a bitter @sshole.

 

I think it's silly to think that there is only ONE person that we can connect with on that level, and if we lose them that's it. It's over. We die alone. I love my girlfriend, but I don't consider her to be "the one". not because I don't think she's right for me because I think she is. She takes me for who I am. I take her for who she is. There's things she does that drives me insane, I love her anyway. I do crap that she hates. She loves me anyway.

 

I think it's unrealistic and very Hollywood to look at someone that way though. "OMG you're the one I want to live with you forevar!" . I don't get butterflies every time she calls or I see her anymore. That's the honeymoon phase and my girlfriend and I are way past that. I'm happy as hell when I see her, hold her hand, and kiss her but it's not like there is fireworks going off behind us as we walk around campus and our relationship is picture perfect. She is my companion and definitely my best friend.

 

So yeah, no I don't believe in "true love" (whatever it means) I "true love" is more for girls anyway. More girls buy into it than us guys do.

[Jane2011]

I don't really believe in "one true love," "destiny," "the one" stuff...

 

Even though I love having relationships, I'm not really all that romantic a person. I don't get into flowers, anniversaries, "our song," candlelight dinners, etc. When I go for a walk with my boyfriend (or any bf from the past), it's to get exercise, talk, enjoy scenery, and hang out, not because I want some long, romantic stroll in which we marvel over the magic of our relationship.

 

I will do all those things, mind you, if the guy feels like a little of it is a nice element to the relationship, but I don't thrive on those things.

 

I really believe in compatibility, physical attraction, friendship, give-and-take, and working at it.

[Treasa]

What TaraMaiden said.

 

To answer the title of this thread, I don't know if I believe in "one romantic love" that's meant for everyone. I truly love myself. I have true and unconditional love for my mom and family. I have semi*twitch*unconditional love for my best friend when he isn't being a newb.

 

I believe two people can be very happy together, although it's usually not the Cinderally happy ever after crap.

[PutARingOnIt]

I don't believe in it. Yes, I am bitter because I have never had it. So there.