Drseussgrrl Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I've been dating someone for about a month and it's going really well. He's funny, cute, smart, thoughtful, the total package. I'm 33 and he's 36. I haven't liked anyone like this in ages. We're taking things day by day, but I find myself giddy with excitement when I am about to see him. Truth is - it's freaking me the eff out! Usually I am the one lagging behind in the feelings department with the men I date but god I just want to call him my boyfriend already. What is wrong with me?! It sucks but the alarm bells in my head are screaming 'Abort! Abort!' and I'm afraid my fears are going to cause me to sabotage what could be a great thing.
carhill Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Fear of abandonment? 'Abort, Abort!' sounds like 'get out now before he dumps me because I'm unworthy of his love', regardless of what the truth of the relationship or the partners is. Hope you can work it out.
Roadkill007 Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 That's great! Now you can be all nervous and awkward like the rest of us, muhahahhahhahhah! Just make sure you're both on the same page when you're thinking of taking things to the next level. Good luck !
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I just re-read your old thread and saw the update. Glad I was wrong. Enjoy
Emilia Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 It sucks but the alarm bells in my head are screaming 'Abort! Abort!' and I'm afraid my fears are going to cause me to sabotage what could be a great thing. You ignore them. You sleep on it, distract yourself, do whatever you have to do. Tell yourself you will see it to the bitter end because no matter what happens you can handle the outcome. You can't have negative feelings rule your life. 1
Treasa Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 What Emilia said. You functioned for 33 years and even experienced happiness before you met this guy, so surely you could lose him and still be ok. You know you rock, girl. Why bother trying to deny it?
candie13 Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Some men are more "relationship" material than others, and a sensitive chick such as yourself can sense that. But, because you're 33, it may be possible that you really really want it to be true - so I say definitely enjoy it and try to really get to know him. I don't know how you are, but if it were me in your shoes, the best advice I could give myself would be to put a big big hold on the expectations... I'm terrible, that way!
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