Fab001 Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Hi all there, I believe someone has already touched this subject over here but I cannot find those posts any longer. I have broken up for ab 18 months and i'm doing fine: I have a new bf, new home etc. However, I have still problem running my hobby (crafting) as it brings me back memories of that period of us together: I started crafting back then. I wonder if any of you has the same problem and how do you handle the situation. Fab
CarrieT Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Been there, done that... I was married when I was 20 and divorced at 25. During that time, I took a handful of jewelry courses and my husband and I even started a little business (after I taught him some techniques) of making and selling jewelry at Renaissance fairs. During the divorce proceedings, he bribed the mediator and ended up with custody of our large equipment and the rites to thr business. I was so emotionally broken by the process that I didn't make jewelry for several years afterwards... I have now been divorced for 25 years and am happy to report that I have not only gone back to jewelry, I have a very thriving business and my work is in galleries all over the country. You just need more time to heal... 2
Treasa Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Been there, done that... I was married when I was 20 and divorced at 25. During that time, I took a handful of jewelry courses and my husband and I even started a little business (after I taught him some techniques) of making and selling jewelry at Renaissance fairs. During the divorce proceedings, he bribed the mediator and ended up with custody of our large equipment and the rites to thr business. I was so emotionally broken by the process that I didn't make jewelry for several years afterwards... I have now been divorced for 25 years and am happy to report that I have not only gone back to jewelry, I have a very thriving business and my work is in galleries all over the country. You just need more time to heal... Do you have a site, darling? And yes, I agree completely. If there are things I did or learned to enjoy doing, either while in the relationship or outside of it, I go after them even more afterward. At one point I would have avoided the hobbies because they would have reminded me of the ex, but no longer. I do them for me, not because of him. 1
CarrieT Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Do you have a site, darling? Oh yes... I am also a published author and will guard my anonymity... I am an anonymous force on this site and no one will ever know who I am "in real life!" :laugh: 1
TaraMaiden Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I wouldn't care if you were Princess Diana. I'd never breathe a word. But anonymity is your privilege. .....You know what I think about you anyway.... 1
Treasa Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Oh man. Every time I find someone who makes jewelry...
avelonia2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 (edited) Hi all there, I believe someone has already touched this subject over here but I cannot find those posts any longer. I have broken up for ab 18 months and i'm doing fine: I have a new bf, new home etc. However, I have still problem running my hobby (crafting) as it brings me back memories of that period of us together: I started crafting back then. I wonder if any of you has the same problem and how do you handle the situation. Fab Hi Fab. I don't have any answers and just wanted to say your post has made me realize that the same thing is happening to me! A certain hobby of mine has brought up bad memories of a painful time for me as well. Then add in the anniversary of huge loss of a close family member and I'm triggering ALL over the place. Ugh. I just realized I'm super vulnerable right now and the anniversary of the one loss triggered the unresolved pain of the other. I'm also in the midst of getting ready to move and everything all at once threw me completely off course. Yikes! Thanks for posting this! I've been totally on edge and now I know why. Edited May 20, 2013 by avelonia2013
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