sybo24 Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Its been three weeks since the end of my relationship with my MM. Feeling particularly bad today. My mum has been visiting for the last 4 weeks from 300 miles away, and has just been picked up by my sister to take her home. I have had to cope with being dump, NC and looking after my mum who has dementia. She is 78 and quiet healthy and fit apart from her memory. I have noticed she has got worse on this visit. I am feeling angry at my exMM for leaving me again when my mum is visiting. He did this a week before christmas last year too. When he was here he made lots of (empty) promises about helping with mum and taking her to visit where she grew up to help with here memories. Im glad she doesnt remember what he has done and sometimes asked where he was. It has been hard Now I am closing to breaking NC as I need to vent angry or get some TLC from him. I wont do it thought because I know it will only hurt me more and the TLC is only tempory. He is not worth any more of my time. Anyway just needed to get out what I felt. Thank you for reading xx
Goodbye Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 You are right, the TLC will only be temporary...and it is coming from the WRONG person. Remind yourself that he had the opportunity to help you and love you and he chose not to. You do need TLC, but not from him. Taking care of aging parents, especially with dementia, is exhaustion physically and emotionally. You may need to give yourself the TLC if you can't get it from friends or family. Can you go for a massage or pamper yourself? If you can't...even a long, hot shower and a nice nap could set you in a better direction.
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