ZhaoZilong5 Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 My ex is emotionally confused between her abusive ex and me. She's going NC with him for a month, and she's trying to see if she can heal and focus her attention on me. It's obvious that she still likes me and has an emotional attachment to me. In this case, is it better to stick around and spend a lot of time with her or be distant? I feel like if I leave, then she'll just go running back to him. I think her biggest reason for her attachment to him was the sex.
TaraMaiden Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 Tell her: "The decision is yours - but make sure you choose the better man, for all the better reasons. And if with him, it's just about the sex, how 'bout you tell me what you like, and I give you the same, but better? Call me when you've decided. Until then, I'll leave you alone with your thoughts." And go silent...... like the colossus that is the 250-man crew nuclear submarine, floating silently under the four-man fishing boat......
Treasa Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I would run far and fast. Anyone who has to think about being with an abusive ex or me is someone I don't want to be with. 4
TaraMaiden Posted May 20, 2013 Posted May 20, 2013 I would run far and fast. Anyone who has to think about being with an abusive ex or me is someone I don't want to be with. Of course. Good point.
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